Gloria25 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 (edited) Have you ever seriously thought about relocation when it comes to dating? I hate where I live. I moved here years ago cuz I had a home in a city that was close by and figured the move wouldn't be that expensive; I've visited where I live now on a few occasions and thought it was expanding/growing; and, cuz of the career path I chose, there were lots of opportunity here. But, cuz of my dating preferences, it has been hard - if not impossible - to find someone willing to date me. Cuz of my job situation and stuff maybe this is the right time for me to take this big leap. I'm getting close to 40 and tired of my dating woes too. I wonder if I should try searching for dating prospects in the area I'd like to move to, then, make the decision to move there. Maybe I could rent out my home and get an apt where I plan to move to, not just uproot myself and move permanently? What do you think? Have you ever relocated in order to have a better dating situation (either full or in part)? Was it successful? Did you relocate before or after meeting someone in the place you were thinking of relocating to? Edited November 16, 2014 by Gloria25
Leegh Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 No, I have never moved to another city for better dating prospects, but I have thought of it in combination with other reasons for moving. I currently live in a city where it gets cold in the winter, and at some point I plan to move to a warmer climate, and hopefully meet new people there. Getting back to your post, if you can afford it, it would be fine to move to a new city, and rent your current home. If you didn't want to actually move, perhaps you could visit your new city of interest for a week or so, and go to clubs, etc. and find out what the dating prospects are there. I don't know where you currently live, but most fairly large cities have holiday dances coming up, and this is a great time, as we are in the holiday season now.
MissBee Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 No. I can't see myself moving just to have better dating options. It's not that serious for me personally. I travel often so I'd rather meet someone briefly somewhere else if anything and start something LD and see how it goes rather than move my whole life for the single purpose of more dating options. There is nothing that guarantees that anyway so I'm not sure how you would guarantee moving would mean better dating options (unless you live in a rural area or small town then I guess any move to a more metropolitan area might be better than the small town). I've lived thus far in 3 major U.S. cities in urban areas with lots of young professionals, large universities, melting pot areas etc. and women and men still complained about dating, which leads me to believe in many cases it's a GIGS type thing. I think if you're living in or near any major city then the dating scene will be fine and moving to another city may not see a huge difference in dating prospects necessarily, whereas maybe those moving from rural to urban or smaller town to bigger one may be the ones to get more benefit and notice a bigger difference. 2
OwMyEyeball Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Solely for dating? No, but the demographics here are hugely favourable to a guy such as myself so when the decision came to where I wanted to move to this choice was all the more appealing. I was moving more as an escape from the isolation and loneliness of living in a small, northern community. This city fit the bill on a lot of criteria then added some more that I hadn't even considered until I finally moved here. Also, a lot of what makes the women here so appealing is inherent to the overall community and feel of the city. Ultimately, that matters a lot more. I want to feel comfortable where I live. To figure out your dating prospects in any location you can save yourself the advanced scouting mission by reading up on local demographics. You can also get a good sense of what kind of people live in the area by what the dominant industries are. Healthcare, tourism, education, childcare, culinary, the arts tend to attract feminine people while resource industries, military, legal, commerce, manufacturing and engineering tend to attract masculine people. Most big cities are a mixture of these, though smaller communities tend to lean more towards one or the other. You identify quite proudly as having a strong masculine side so you might do well to look into locations that have a dominantly feminine atmosphere to find guys you'll click with. But, of course, that should come second to career ambitions and passions. Happy hunting.
carhill Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 What do you think? Have you ever relocated in order to have a better dating situation (either full or in part)? Was it successful? Did you relocate before or after meeting someone in the place you were thinking of relocating to? Although I researched many aspects for the move I'm currently undertaking, male-female demographics were amongst the criteria in that I considered the ratios as part of the milieu for business and personal interactions and have gotten a feel for the 'style' of the local population by engaging women at various levels, from talking to clerks at city hall about building permits to waitresses at restaurants, to female business owners about their perspectives on local business, to female real estate agents. Essentially, doing mixed reconnaissance and plugging in personal observations relevant to census data. That said, the primary goal is to live a lifestyle more compatible with my own preferences and pace of life. If dating partners arise out of that dynamic, bonus. Past experience in more balanced demographics indicated dating selection and experiences improved, as well as the 'fit' being more synergistic, so I'll take what I've learned from past experiences and apply it to the next, last, 'gamble' in life. No guarantees. Accepting that reality is, IMO, part of the process. Good luck with your choices!
me85 Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 I'm relocating to start a new life. Yes, I do think that where I'm moving to will have a singles scene, unlike where I'm from. But my primary motivation for relocating is to have a better, happier, more fulfilling life. There are no opportunities where I currently live. On any level. I want a better job. I want a career. I'm not all that concerned with dating or hoping to meet anyone but it would be nice if it happened. 1
Tayken Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 What do you think? Have you ever relocated in order to have a better dating situation (either full or in part)? Was it successful? Did you relocate before or after meeting someone in the place you were thinking of relocating to? There probably aren't many like me out there, but have always been the type to take risks in life, and don't want to have to live with the "what if". I have lived on 4 continents and traveled to over 100 countries, 35 states in the US (where I have cousins, aunts and uncles, so getting around is easy). When I was back in the UK, I met my ex on vacation in the Mediterranean (where her folks are from) when she was there visiting family. Years later we reconnected, and I moved here across the pond to be with her. Was it successful? My son came out of it if that counts. Again, there aren't many like me out there, and all this has added to my life lessons and my life thus far. No obstacle to big for me. A single professional career father raising a kid, with no family members in the country to help out. I went through a divorce with no support whatsoever, and came out of it alive. So you can see why the single mother stories don't impress me much, considering I don't get child support and shacking up with another guy to alleviate my expenses. 1
gaius Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Where are you located right now Gloria? I moved around a bunch as a kid and didn't notice a huge difference in the way people responded to me. It can definitely help if you've had bad experiences though and could use a fresh start.
Imported Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 I've lived in different areas of California, Oahu Hawaii, Hong Kong, Florida and even Texas for nearly 6 months. Travel wise, I have been to far more places. Honestly, there always seems to be a limitless supply of attractive and available women everywhere I go. Sometimes though, a change of scenery helps people be better than who they are and they will find success in the new location not because it's a new location, but because their outlook is different.
No Limit Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 I'd never move just because of dating prospects. But I did move into the city because my school is there. Turns out the city guys are much like the country guys, only that most of them are as insecure as the protagonists in teenager movies and that they're as thin as me rather than trained and manly-looking. If they'd at least eat a few burgers to hide their bones it'd be enough for me... The rest is the same. Eye contact, then quickly looking away. The bravest look back at me with a look that says "Wait, is she looking at me? Damn, she is!", the awkward hold it but keep walking so it's me who breaks eye contact so I don't run into someone. Feels like I'm running through an endless repetition of a scene from the movie "Memoirs of a Geisha".
Tayken Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 I'd never move just because of dating prospects. But I did move into the city because my school is there. Turns out the city guys are much like the country guys, only that most of them are as insecure as the protagonists in teenager movies and that they're as thin as me rather than trained and manly-looking. If they'd at least eat a few burgers to hide their bones it'd be enough for me... The rest is the same. Eye contact, then quickly looking away. The bravest look back at me with a look that says "Wait, is she looking at me? Damn, she is!", the awkward hold it but keep walking so it's me who breaks eye contact so I don't run into someone. Feels like I'm running through an endless repetition of a scene from the movie "Memoirs of a Geisha". Like that movie, but unfortunately I have not had the privilege of banging a Geisha. Now to be fair to these "guys", they are young and still struggle with the mating calls...they will get there soon
thefooloftheyear Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 I agree with the others...Seems silly that one would have to relocate to find someone compatible ...I have been all over the country...Through most states..There are good looking and good people everywhere...Maybe Alaska?, where I hear there are like 20:1 man/woman...In that case, I guess it is probaly unbalanced, but I dunno... Props to Texas, btw.....Some very pretty and inviting southern lasses down there... Anyway, I dont see how moving for this sake is going to work...At the end of the day, we are who we are, and it doesnt matter where we hang our hat... TFY 1
Snakechammah Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 I've lived in this sh*thole all my life and I agree I'll never find a decent local man. I'm lowest in the dating foodchain at 'home'. The 1.5 years I spent in uni abroad was the BEST dating experience of my life. Suddenly I am attractive to the foreign dudes but once I stepped back to local soil, my lovelife became a faded fart. So yeah, I am convinced I'll have better luck elsewhere but I can't bear to leave my family (and little birdie). Sigh...
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