jcm101 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 So I've been dating this girl for like 7 months. Haven't even had exclusive talk we probably should but we both met each other parents and I just assume we are. She asked me to come but I just can not afford it. She has two groups of friends her better friends who I really like and all basically have bfs aren't going away spring break and wanted to do something later in. However her other group the one who she may be going with are single girls. Technically we're not exclusive right now so she by all means can go but I was thinking asking her if she'd want to go somewhere less expensive with me. I don't think she'll agree but what are your thoughts on this? I also really need to bring up were we are at. I def want us to be exclusive
d0nnivain Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 At 7 months in you can ask to be exclusive. As for Spring Break, it seems a little early to me to be planning that. She may want some girl time. Also in college my parents were perfectly happy to let me go away with my friends. If they even suspected my BF was going to be in the same place, they never would have let me go. She may not be ready for a big trip with a BF That said, before she starts paying non-refundable deposits for this trip you should discuss with her going somewhere together. Don't be shocked if she tries to get you to get a group of guys to go where she's going or gets her friends to go where you want. She may be looking forward to a big party. N.B. the desire for the spring break party is not automatically a desire to cheat.
Author jcm101 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 At 7 months in you can ask to be exclusive. As for Spring Break, it seems a little early to me to be planning that. She may want some girl time. Also in college my parents were perfectly happy to let me go away with my friends. If they even suspected my BF was going to be in the same place, they never would have let me go. She may not be ready for a big trip with a BF That said, before she starts paying non-refundable deposits for this trip you should discuss with her going somewhere together. Don't be shocked if she tries to get you to get a group of guys to go where she's going or gets her friends to go where you want. She may be looking forward to a big party. N.B. the desire for the spring break party is not automatically a desire to cheat. I can trust her it's just the thought of her preferring to go away with that group of friends over accomadating with my finances and book something together that's cheaper.
ConfusedCanadian Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Until you talk to her about being exclusive and ask her if she would prefer to go with you somewhere different she will never know you feel this way. Now if she decides she still wants to go with her friends, there is nothing wrong with her going away with just the girls, just like there wouldn't be an issue if you went away with your friends. Trips together as a couple are fun and a great way to bond, but each of you still need to be able to have fun with your friends on trips as well. 1
Author jcm101 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 Until you talk to her about being exclusive and ask her if she would prefer to go with you somewhere different she will never know you feel this way. Now if she decides she still wants to go with her friends, there is nothing wrong with her going away with just the girls, just like there wouldn't be an issue if you went away with your friends. Trips together as a couple are fun and a great way to bond, but each of you still need to be able to have fun with your friends on trips as well. Thanks I feel we're already a couple but I'll ask anyways. How should I word it?
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