Lovebite Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Hello Loveshack members! I never dated this guy...but he was a romantic interest. We've grown apart, we use to be really close, but he and I aren't anymore because of so many issues. I still deeply care for him, but I know it's best for us to keep a distance. I don't have a Facebook anymore, but my mom does. My mom has him on her friend's list, which is fine, but I notice when my mom posts pics of me, he'll somehow either come over, call, or message her about something. It's like my pics prompt him to do something haha. I haven't talked to him in a month, and my mom posted pics last night of me and her. Well he didn't put a "like" to any of the pics, but he messaged my mom and said "Wake Larry up" "Let's go drinking" (Larry is my dad) then he calls my dad's phone and talks to him about something completely unrelated and even asked where I was and my dad said "out" and he said "Uhm with who?" "She's out?" and he even said he would call my cell, and he never did. Then my mom messages him and says "I'm old, I don't do that anymore! Larry is the same way, you know that haha. Well Mandy (me) is out of course!" He said "I'll be there in 10 mins, you're coming out drinking" An he never showed up. But why does he do that? Why does he seem to call, message, or show up when my mother post pics of me on her FB? Also why would he say he's going to be at my house and then not show up? some sort of a weird tactic? Just give me your take on all of this, and why my pics prompt him to call, or want to talk to me lol? Thank you
ExpatInItaly Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 I couldn't guess his intentions, but he sounds like a weird guy. I don't quite understand how you know what was said between him and you mom. Does she tell you this? If you don't have FB, how do you know his activity online? 1
JohanD Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 I'm trying to put myself in his shoes. What I believe: 1) Your pictures makes him think of really good memories of you guys and he misses you 2) You said you had issues. I think he doesn't see your past as being as "turbulent" as you did. He probably see your past a lot more positive. 3) He probably still really cares a lot about you, little doubt. 4) And there is no doubt that he really likes your parents as well (more good memories). I guess he always loved talking to your mom whenever he was over at your house. Mothers are great intermediaries for passing information, especially if he is to nervous to pass it directly to you. 5) He probably never passed to your house because he was nervous to see you again. That is my interpretation. Please let me know if you find out.. 1
Author Lovebite Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 I couldn't guess his intentions, but he sounds like a weird guy. I don't quite understand how you know what was said between him and you mom. Does she tell you this? If you don't have FB, how do you know his activity online? Yeah, my mom showed me. She thought it was weird as well. I don't know why, but it seems my pics prompt him to do something lol. Thank you.
Author Lovebite Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 I'm trying to put myself in his shoes. What I believe: 1) Your pictures makes him think of really good memories of you guys and he misses you 2) You said you had issues. I think he doesn't see your past as being as "turbulent" as you did. He probably see your past a lot more positive. 3) He probably still really cares a lot about you, little doubt. 4) And there is no doubt that he really likes your parents as well (more good memories). I guess he always loved talking to your mom whenever he was over at your house. Mothers are great intermediaries for passing information, especially if he is to nervous to pass it directly to you. 5) He probably never passed to your house because he was nervous to see you again. That is my interpretation. Please let me know if you find out.. Wow! Yeah...that is pretty interesting. What I meant by issues is that I was resisting with him and I didn't go further with him like I wanted to only because I have trust issues, so he was my friend and only my friend, but he also created a distance between is because he didn't like being just friends with me. He didn't verbally tell me, but I had the notion he just didn't like to be with me as a friend and I didn't mean too, but I think I friend zoned him as well. So we've grown apart for that reason because I have trust issues. But thank you so much for your opinion on this! Only time will tell I guess.
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