frigginlost Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Welp. Looks like the old adage is true. I have been working with/through a relationship with a girl that cheated. I thought things were running along perfect as all the remorse signs from her were there; open book etc. That all went to pot 2 weeks ago and the distance and coldness showed back up. Having seen the signs before, I went to work. Found a "new guy friend" in the picture, and caught her in lies regarding him. I played it cool, until I found out she went to his birthday party last week, and had no time for mine on Friday. I called her on it, and she dumped me. Oh well. I'm dodging a pretty big bullet with her. I know she is petrified about people finding out she is a cheat, but she needs to be taught she can't walk all over people. So this morning I sent her this as my "get lost" final text. "Hello. I have gathered your stuff consisting of (items). They will be on the porch as we discussed. The items at your place should be my (items). All of my friends have been made aware of your wishes regarding us. I will not lie to them no matter who they are regarding us, if they so inquire on any subject concerning reasons for the split. I wish you well and hope you find whatever it is you're missing from your life." Thoughts? Hello NC... I've missed you.
J2911 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Welp. Looks like the old adage is true. I have been working with/through a relationship with a girl that cheated. I thought things were running along perfect as all the remorse signs from her were there; open book etc. That all went to pot 2 weeks ago and the distance and coldness showed back up. Having seen the signs before, I went to work. Found a "new guy friend" in the picture, and caught her in lies regarding him. I played it cool, until I found out she went to his birthday party last week, and had no time for mine on Friday. I called her on it, and she dumped me. Oh well. I'm dodging a pretty big bullet with her. I know she is petrified about people finding out she is a cheat, but she needs to be taught she can't walk all over people. So this morning I sent her this as my "get lost" final text. "Hello. I have gathered your stuff consisting of (items). They will be on the porch as we discussed. The items at your place should be my (items). All of my friends have been made aware of your wishes regarding us. I will not lie to them no matter who they are regarding us, if they so inquire on any subject concerning reasons for the split. I wish you well and hope you find whatever it is you're missing from your life." Thoughts? Hello NC... I've missed you. I'm a firm believer that once a cheater , always will be that. 1
newmoon Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 agree. i know people like to believe in second chances and changes, but nope... your past behaviors really do indicate your future ones. cheaters always cheat. it's just amazing that so many people willingly admit to having cheated. that is a major red flag. 1
Tayla Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Given time and actions...those are key. I disagree with the always a cheater mentality, just like I disagree with a person who is locked in to life with staunch opinions. Unyielding to possibility of change given data.
Mi7522 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Welp. Looks like the old adage is true. I have been working with/through a relationship with a girl that cheated. I thought things were running along perfect as all the remorse signs from her were there; open book etc. That all went to pot 2 weeks ago and the distance and coldness showed back up. Having seen the signs before, I went to work. Found a "new guy friend" in the picture, and caught her in lies regarding him. I played it cool, until I found out she went to his birthday party last week, and had no time for mine on Friday. I called her on it, and she dumped me. Oh well. I'm dodging a pretty big bullet with her. I know she is petrified about people finding out she is a cheat, but she needs to be taught she can't walk all over people. So this morning I sent her this as my "get lost" final text. "Hello. I have gathered your stuff consisting of (items). They will be on the porch as we discussed. The items at your place should be my (items). All of my friends have been made aware of your wishes regarding us. I will not lie to them no matter who they are regarding us, if they so inquire on any subject concerning reasons for the split. I wish you well and hope you find whatever it is you're missing from your life." Thoughts? Hello NC... I've missed you. I think a subtle " buh bye" would have been suffice enough
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