nateharding33 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Wow where do I start. Let's start when I first moved into my aunt's house. Me and my mom weren't getting along, so she sent me to my aunt's to live I was in eighth grade. It was hard for m me for such a big move. Fwd to 10th grade I dated nothing very seriouse. Untill one day I was just joking with this one girl just a little teasing so after school that day I texted her just a little small talk that I texted her saying "what am I going to do ronight!" And she told me to come over I was so excited but at the same time I was so nervous I went over there and we watched a movie I was so happy I thought to myself what else would I need right now than she kissed me. It was the most beautiful thing that I have ever felt. I knew from right there I was in love. She was just perfect I loved/love everything about her. Everything was going great we fought sometimes but we always got thru it. Fwd 11th grade year. She gets pregnant I'm scared. I'm horrified. Things start going downhill quickly. I haven't told my aunt and uncle. I leave her. I go do my own thing. I finally tell my parents after 5 or 6 months I'm still not back with her. Emma's born on November 11, 2013 I was not the for her birth I was scared of her grandpop. I went the day after school to see her she was the most beautiful baby in the world. I loved her. Things were hard at home it just kept getting worse we are still not back together but I miss her I did the whole time I was gone. I get back with her. I missed her so much. Than I get into trouble I hurt her and a lot of other people. She takes me back and I change I finish school and I'm in her and the baby's life. It's hard to see her my aunt and uncle don't like me being around her or her family. I'm doing what I can to see my daughter and my girlfriend than I get a break and I,get a decent job in the oilfield I'm not home much to start. When I am home I go over to my girlfriend's house and we stay there I have money and were doing things going to dinner and just spending time together we finally decide it's time to move in together. I haven't talked to my aunt and uncle they didn't like that I moved out. So now it's just me, her, and my daughter we fight sometimes and it's hard but I wanted to support my family and be there for them I wasn't always the most helpful when I was home. Than On Saturday November 8 I come home from work she says she's going to her grandparents. So she goes she doesn't come home the first night than the second I go,there she wasn't home I was so hurt and disappointed I realized she isn't coming home. I cry a lot I miss her and would give anything to have her back she is everything to me. Iloveyou Kayla Marie Staines and I hope you come home
MTmama Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 I am sorry for your struggles. Can you talk to your girlfriend? Can you find out what is going on and why she left? It is obvious that you want to make a life with her, can you seek counseling? Sometimes, having someone work it out with you and your SO can help you figure out why there is conflict. Hugs!
Strength in Healing Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 What in the high hell? My friend, listen, you need professional help. You are a product of a broken home, and will perpetuate that if you don't seek help. This is lunacy. Children in 11th grade...
SoThatHappened Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 OK, here comes some tough love... Grow the heck up and be a man for the woman and daughter you love. You need to change yourself. What you did to this girl was horrible (not being there for her pregnancy or your daughter's birth). Even after that she let you back into her life. Then, it sounds like you go and screw that up. You need to man up. Stop the fights. Do whatever you can to communicate instead of fight. Lack of honest communication can be the death of so many relationships. If there wasn't a little girl involved I'd just tell you to live and learn and move on. However, this girl needs a dad. Don't let her life be messed up just because you've messed up. Get a different job that allows you to be home more often if you have to. Do everything you can to make positive changes in your life. I know it takes two people to fight and argue, and you may have to be the bigger person once in a while, but do what it takes. It sounds like you both love each other, and you both have a TON of growing up to do. You're old enough to get her pregnant, now you have to be man enough to love them both and support them. If you do things the right way, your youth is going to be vastly different than others your age. But, you need to do the right thing and be in your daughter's life. You can't be a little boy anymore, running away from your problems like a little beotch. Man up.
SoThatHappened Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Another piece of advice: Don't post people's names on the internet.
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