irc333 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Recently, there was this single woman that I knew from Meetup from a long time ago. She was part of the "older" social circle of Meetup and she was back in town after being away for a time. I asked for her number and in response she said, "Give me your number, and I'll give you call sometime about getting together." Had this happen to me a couple of times, but not THAT often to warrant a pattern of sorts, but each time they never call. When a woman does this, don't expect a call? 1
thefooloftheyear Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Its a natural defense for some women...They dont want a stalker, they feel uncomfortable just saying no,...or maybe they want to feel you out before rejecting you outright... I dont see anything odd there...If she doesnt call you, then you have your answer... TFY
Author irc333 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 Its a natural defense for some women...They dont want a stalker, they feel uncomfortable just saying no,...or maybe they want to feel you out before rejecting you outright... I dont see anything odd there...If she doesnt call you, then you have your answer... TFY Not sure if this is a natural defense against someone who should be rather familiar with me? Hm.
Rejected Rosebud Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Not sure if this is a natural defense against someone who should be rather familiar with me? Hm. Maybe it's because she is familiar with you that she thinks she should have a defense! Haha I'm kind of kidding and kind of not. You don't seem like a dangerous person but from the way you post about women pretty much nonstop around here I imagine you probably give off some major weird vibes. I don't mean to hurt your feelings, hope I haven't. 2
carhill Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 When a woman does this, don't expect a call? Backing up a bit, when they ask for your number, accept that as foreshadowing to a 'no' for a date.
Author irc333 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 (edited) Maybe it's because she is familiar with you that she thinks she should have a defense! Haha I'm kind of kidding and kind of not. You don't seem like a dangerous person but from the way you post about women pretty much nonstop around here I imagine you probably give off some major weird vibes. I don't mean to hurt your feelings, hope I haven't. Dangerous is a big excessive, don't you think? Cripes man. lol. Though, that's subjective as women who don't find some men attractive tend to slap such a label on guys, where handsome men who behave the same way can get away with it because there's already an attraction. But I can take a joke, Rosebud. lol. I think there are some posts here is where I'm using some situations as more of a sounding board. I'm far different in person in my mannerisms face-to-face. I hardly relentessly pursue women in person and from upon comparison with other men at these events, I'm a far cry tame compared to them. Some are stuck on them like glue from the beginning of the evening ALL the way out to their car acting like that little dog from the Bugs Bunny cartoons following SPIKE around, "Hey, wanna do next, boss? What do ya wanna do next? Huh? Huh? Huh? How bout we find some cats to harass, eh eh boss , eh? How about...." "Meeeeh...SHaaaduuuup!!" "Sorry boss" Yeah, if you go to some of these events, there are some of these guys who behave in such a matter, and being the quiet people watcher that I am, I just have to observe and chuckle, introduce myself and then continue to mingle with others. Edited November 16, 2014 by irc333
MissBee Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Recently, there was this single woman that I knew from Meetup from a long time ago. She was part of the "older" social circle of Meetup and she was back in town after being away for a time. I asked for her number and in response she said, "Give me your number, and I'll give you call sometime about getting together." Had this happen to me a couple of times, but not THAT often to warrant a pattern of sorts, but each time they never call. When a woman does this, don't expect a call? I'd say yes, majority of the time you can expect no call. If a man I'm interested in asks for my number I have no qualms about giving it to him and actually prefer him to do the initial calling. If however, I am not interested, I'll ask for his number so that he doesn't have mine and therefore I can choose not to call him without the whole thing being awkward. But yea I'd say in my own experience if you ask for a woman's number and she immediately turns it around and asks for yours 9/10 times it's because she doesn't want you to have hers so is doing this to diffuse the situation quickly.
xxoo Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 It's the old "don't call me, I'll call you". Useful for both business and pleasure. 2
preraph Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 I might ask for the man's number so I'm not sitting around waiting for him to call. In most situations, though, it's just a safety issue, like others have said. For one thing, if you have their number, you have an ID of sorts and can pass that on to a mom or a friend the first time you go out and say "Here's what he told me his name was, and here's his phone number."
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