tlour61 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 It has been 5 months since I broke off with boyfriend. I've contact him a few times to change his mailing address and for him to retrieve his safe. Yes the safe has money and other things. I've started to send things back to sender address unknown but the mail is still coming. I think I made a mistake when one of his credit card reissue him one and I forward it to him. I should have sent it back to company. The last time I spoke to him he state he hated me and didn't want me to talk to him. So that's what I've done. Just tired of his mail coming to the house.
lemonsugar Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 It has been 5 months since I broke off with boyfriend. I've contact him a few times to change his mailing address and for him to retrieve his safe. Yes the safe has money and other things. I've started to send things back to sender address unknown but the mail is still coming. I think I made a mistake when one of his credit card reissue him one and I forward it to him. I should have sent it back to company. The last time I spoke to him he state he hated me and didn't want me to talk to him. So that's what I've done. Just tired of his mail coming to the house.a I take it you broke up with him. Just write on the envelope not known at this address and put it back in the post box. Just keep doing that his probably still hurting badly give him the space he wants
Quest Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 You shouldn't have to take responsibility for his mail if he isn't willing to. I'd collect it all, and forward it to him with a note (seems like you know his new address) saying this is the last time you're doing this, and that if he doesn't arrange for his mail to be redirected to his current address pronto, from now on you'll bin it. (You have the right to do that if he's had the chance to do something about it and hasn't taken it.) You could also say that he's got a week (or something) to arrange to pick up his safe. If he doesn't do anything then you've got the right to dispose of that too - though I don't know what you do with a safe ... take it to recycling??? Do they have a bin for safes? Seriously, though, he should be taking responsibility for his stuff and if you give him the chance and he doesn't take it then I don't think it's your worry any more. Just move on.
Quest Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 a I take it you broke up with him. Just write on the envelope not known at this address and put it back in the post box. Just keep doing that his probably still hurting badly give him the space he wants Oh - hadn't got the fact that he was the one who was dumped. Well, maybe offer to take the safe to him and say you'll can do it on X day. If he won't talk to you, just leave a message and ask him to get back to you. He is probably hurting, that's true and just doesn't want to have to deal with this stuff.
Author tlour61 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 Yes I did breakup with him. His drinking is was out of control and got tired of walking on egg shells. He start with my son when he was drunk and that was it. Yes my son is 19 and still lives with me. i just don't want to contact him again to get his things. Tired of being a enabler. Really don't care anymore if he is hurting. Still love him but don't like he anymore if that makes sense. His parents still calls me up once in awhile since to them I'm still a daughter. They also love my children like there own grandchildren.
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