Dante311 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 I emailed her... "are you comfortable being friends yet?" she replied.. "I don't know what that would mean or look like... I really care about u but I'm very fragile right now and I'm not sure I can handle that" So I said... "It doesn't matter what it would mean or look like. We can't have a relationship right now. That much is true. That part of me is numb. I don't want to kiss you right now. I don't want to cuddle you right now. I don't want to be IN love you right now. But I still love you. And I do care about you. And I would appreciate you in my life (and I believe you feel the same). You have been the most dear thing to me for the last four years... I still want to hold your hair when you're vomiting (not that that should EVER happen to you...but even at the very grossest points, you're still so beautiful) ... I want to be supportive. I want to be your friend. I want to keep our memories. I cherish and value that. I believe there are still many more to make - they may not be romantic ones, not yet.. perhaps not ever (only time knows these answers)... we still have our pride/s in tact. We have ourselves, and that's VERY important. And I'd like to say I'm a 30 year old med student.. maturity may not be my greatest feat, but I'd sure as hell like to be that. I will respect you. You crossed my mind today. The way you would smile at me from across the sofa while we would pig out on a friday night... I hope you're doing well. best, R" ...an hour later she emailed me (I think she was prompted by a friend, this doesn't sound like her... but I guess it could?) "Please, please please just stop. If I want to talk to you, I will contact you. But please, for gods sake stop emailing me. Take care. D" So I replied simply.. "Ok I'll give you some more space. I'm working on me, like you're working on you. And really thinking about everything that was between us. I look forward to hearing from you ... be well." ------ I killed it hahaha there is no reconciliation
me85 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Sorry you're going through that but YES leave her alone. Their mindset is the opposite of our's and nothing we say or do can ever make them see our side. They've changed. They're not the same person we fell in love with. Gota let go. I know it's hard but in time you'll realize that it was best to move on. You have to live life to the fullest and someone rejecting you is a waste of your time. Period. Love yourself more than anyone else ever could.
Author Dante311 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 Sorry you're going through that but YES leave her alone. Their mindset is the opposite of our's and nothing we say or do can ever make them see our side. They've changed. They're not the same person we fell in love with. Gota let go. I know it's hard but in time you'll realize that it was best to move on. You have to live life to the fullest and someone rejecting you is a waste of your time. Period. Love yourself more than anyone else ever could. Thanks <3 I know i did a stupid thing. I know I could do better. but it is so hard to let go
Mr Scorpio Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Tearing a Band-Aid off is always easier when you do it in one quick rip. If you pull slowly, a little bit at a time? You see the skin rise, hair gets pulled up and off. It hurts. One quick motion my man. Quick.
SoThatHappened Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Gotta be honest... I cringed when I read your message to her. I've had a mentally/romantically/emotionally/maturity - challenged woman send me similar things. I was friends with her for 9 years and then she told me she had feelings for me. I told her I don't have those feelings for her but want to remain friends if possible. She sent the exact same type of texts, emails, and letters. She pushed me so far away from her that my last text to her was "grow the F up and leave me the F alone." And I tried everything to keep that friendship. Every contact from her with wording like your message just made me think less of her and actually feel sorry for her. Don't do what you just did in the future. I have a strong feeling your current ex will always be an ex. Sorry man, but this is one of those life lessons from which you can learn.
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