daizy Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 After thinking long and hard i decided it was probably best i stopped seeing this guy. I haven't told him this but i figured fizzling out slowly by responding slow and being "too busy" would do the trick and it looks like so far it has. However i'm really sad about this. I miss him. I keep rehashing how differently i could play this (maybes and what ifs) but instead i try to remember the reasons why i chose to end it (he isnt good for me, i feel too attached to him and he is sort of a womanizer i think and huge ladies man sort of a player and i wouldnt be able to trust him). But why am i so sad and obsessing over someone that ive only gotten to know for 2 months... And why do i like these guys who arent very relationship material? I cant even fall asleep. Its pathetic. Help.
me85 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Daizy, I feel you. I promise you aren't alone. I'ma magnet for unavailable men. Never fails. You did the right thing. Better to end things in the beginning before you really invest in that RS. Be proud you used your brain instead of blindly following your heart/emotions. Not many do that. If after a couple of months your feelings haven't changed maybe reach and out in a small way and see what happens. Don't pet the sweaty things. (=
irresolute Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 You did the right thing. If you're wondering and asking yourself "what if..." that's because he cannot provide you with the security you need, so instead your mind tries to find an answer to his flakiness. I do hope you dont look back. Players are just that: players.
dragonfire13 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 It's hard being the dumper sometimes... especially in the absence of a concrete deal breaker. I think it's important to go with your gut feeling though. In the long run, you'll be happier for it, and will probably be respected for it by the guy too. Who knows if you reconnect in the future, at least he knows you don't tolerate the "player" types.
90s kid Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Sounds like you made a smart decision. You may be upset now but you probably saved yourself a lot more heartache in the future by cutting him loose.
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