gwennebe Posted March 16, 2005 Posted March 16, 2005 I'm so upset. If you want the full story, you can look it up in Break ups "He cheated on me" I don't know what to do. He emailed me today and I feel so hurt! He apologized and wants me to forgive him someday which I don't get. Why should he care if he doesn't like me enough to be with me. I want to email back so bad but I know it's a bad idea. I have a feeling with him that the only way I can possibly change things between us for the better is to stay out of his life until he realizes he made a mistake. Just wish I knew if he will end up feeling that way or will continue to not want to be with me. He said it has nothing to do with me and he has issues he is dealing with and I did nothing wrong. I feel worthless because I feel like I wasn't good enough to make him love me.
life loser Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 he cheated cause he's a jerk you sound like you are acting out of behaviour of wanting to affect him - forget him and take care of yourself - don't do something cause you think it will hurt him/change him/etc. - do it for yourself!
WantanS4 Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Wow.. your sig is simply amazing.... can I call you sometime?! See... there are others out there ready to pounce on the oppourtunity of meeting you.........
EC Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Girl you are Beautiful!!!!!! And he cheated on you...Freak that...let him go...look you already have offers lined up!!!!
Pocky Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 He apologized and wants me to forgive him someday which I don't get. Why should he care if he doesn't like me enough to be with me. While he may not want to be in a relationship with you he may have realized that the way he treated you was wrong. That his actions were inconsiderate and hurtful to someone that should not have been treated that way. Just because he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you doesn't mean that now he can't see the difference between right and wrong. I have a feeling with him that the only way I can possibly change things between us for the better is to stay out of his life until he realizes he made a mistake. Just wish I knew if he will end up feeling that way or will continue to not want to be with me. I think from what you stated he said, that he realized he made a mistake in the way he treated you. Hopefully, just knowing that he now understands how he hurt you will make you feel a little better. It's always harder to overcome hurt when the person doesn't even recognize the pain they've caused. He said it has nothing to do with me and he has issues he is dealing with and I did nothing wrong. I feel worthless because I feel like I wasn't good enough to make him love me. You can't make someone love someone else. Just because someone didn't return your feelings doesn't meant it should have a reflection of how good you are. Your value as a person is not determined by whether or not someone loves you. A single person can't define who you are. Please don't see his lack of interest in a relationship with you as an indication of who you are.
alphamale Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 females are more interested in emotional fidelity from their man than physical fidelity. If you love him you'll eventually forgive him as long as he's still emotionally tied to you.
EC Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Sorry not related to topic but POCKY your kitty is gorgeous.
Pocky Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Originally posted by EC Sorry not related to topic but POCKY your kitty is gorgeous. Beams like a proud mama! Thank you!
Author gwennebe Posted March 17, 2005 Author Posted March 17, 2005 NO, I don't think I care about him enough anymore to forgive him!!! Thanks for caring guys!! You made my St. Patty's Day!!!! Alpha, I still want you to spank me!!
BrotherAaron Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Just not being angry, not hating, essentially not caring is a form of forgiveness. At some point, I've realized, you forgive people just for yourself, and not for them. It's about not letting what they do hurt you anymore. You're moving on. I can see it. I know you may not always feel your best, and even a week from now you might find yourself crying because you miss him. Whats important is that you know you're doing alright without him. You're doing fine. Happy St. Patrick's day.
chris1063 Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Gwennebe The guy must be nuts !! You are a real rose !! Are you in the states ? I am in England. Chris
alphamale Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by gwennebe Alpha, I still want you to spank me!! :lmao:
chris1063 Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Have to say I thought you looked much nicer without the Gridiron outfit on !!
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