Armegoggon Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Is it a good idea to say something along the lines of "You can message me if you're taller than me" (man's profile)? Yes I rather have a woman taller than me than shorter. I know the society suggests that a man should be taller but what if I want to hint that I'm more into taller women? I've seen a profile that had a tall woman who wrote something like "most men won't approach a woman taller than them" and she still gets a lot of mail.
Dallers Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Humans are so funny. Modern dating in a nutshell. Your true love will probably be 4ft tall but you are so worried about what it would look like being with a shorter person you are willing to throw that away and waste your entire life with somebody who is wrong for you. The girl I am seeing at the moment ticked boxes for me but is nothing like what I would normally go for and I cannot stop thinking about her 24/7. Her profile was so bad that I even started the conversation by taking the piss out of it. You either just let it happen or you end up being one of those people with a paragraph long disclaimer who claim to be so miserable that they cannot find a good man. pmsl.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 I wouldn't bother putting that on your profile. As a woman if I saw that, I'd think either a) the guy is short and insecure about it, hence pointing it out straight off the bat to get it outta the way or b) he's pretty desperate and wanting women to know, ALL WOMEN, that they can get in touch. If a guy's genuine height is on there then women will see it and if she doesn't message, it's more likely to be because she doesn't want to date a shorter guy, rather than her thinking it doesn't matter but worrying in case the guy won't date a taller woman. I'd leave it off altogether. It sounds a bit creepy. The most confident secure short men I know never even think about it or mention it. And they get the girls. Being shorter than me isn't an issue but if a man is constantly pointing it out or making jokes being insecure about it then it is a turn off.
lucy_in_disguise Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 I agree, leave it off. I dont mind daating shorter guys but if i saw that, i would think you are either very desperate, or have some kind of tall fetish. Of all the qualities one should look for, height seems pretty inconsequential to make such a big deal of.
Author Armegoggon Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 Humans are so funny. Modern dating in a nutshell. Your true love will probably be 4ft tall but you are so worried about what it would look like being with a shorter person you are willing to throw that away and waste your entire life with somebody who is wrong for you. The girl I am seeing at the moment ticked boxes for me but is nothing like what I would normally go for and I cannot stop thinking about her 24/7. Her profile was so bad that I even started the conversation by taking the piss out of it. You either just let it happen or you end up being one of those people with a paragraph long disclaimer who claim to be so miserable that they cannot find a good man. pmsl. FYI taller woman are more suited for me. Personal preference really. So you're going to tell a 6 foot 5 man (if he likes women who are no taller than 5 foot 6) that his true love will be a 6 foot 9 woman? I see. So you mean she likes you but you don't really like her back? I wouldn't bother putting that on your profile. As a woman if I saw that, I'd think either a) the guy is short and insecure about it, hence pointing it out straight off the bat to get it outta the way or b) he's pretty desperate and wanting women to know, ALL WOMEN, that they can get in touch. If a guy's genuine height is on there then women will see it and if she doesn't message, it's more likely to be because she doesn't want to date a shorter guy, rather than her thinking it doesn't matter but worrying in case the guy won't date a taller woman. I'd leave it off altogether. It sounds a bit creepy. The most confident secure short men I know never even think about it or mention it. And they get the girls. Being shorter than me isn't an issue but if a man is constantly pointing it out or making jokes being insecure about it then it is a turn off. OkCupid would list your height anyways but how does wanting a taller woman make you an insecure person? And how is hinting your personal preference showing signs of being "desperate"? Worrying about what? How is writing this on your profile making you a worry freak? How is it creepy? Why don't you elaborate it? So you're saying that it is bad that a woman writes their height preference of their male partner too? Also, I'm not that short so I don't feel insecure about my height. It's just that I prefer taller women. I agree, leave it off. I dont mind daating shorter guys but if i saw that, i would think you are either very desperate, or have some kind of tall fetish. Of all the qualities one should look for, height seems pretty inconsequential to make such a big deal of. How desparate? What's wrong with being a fan of taller women? It just suits me.
irc333 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 I dont mind daating shorter guys but if i saw that, i would think you are either very desperate, or have some kind of tall fetish. That's part of the problem with online dating. Seems they always looking for a reason NOT to give you a shot. Too descriptive, then it's "too much". Not descriptive enough...you're too lazy to reveal the details about yourself. Online dating = A Catch 22 situation.
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