winter12 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 I dated a girl with a traumatic brain injury for six months. The extent of her injury wasn’t clear to me at first. She suffers from severe migraines that leave her unable to function. As a result of this, we were only able to see each other once or twice a week. Despite her condition, I developed feelings for this girl and she was very unique to me. However, I never fell in love with her. And after a few months, I began to wonder what I hoped to get out of the relationship? Frustration began to set in and I knew I wasn’t happy. I finally confronted her about the amount of time we spent together and told her it wasn’t working for me. She understood and we decided to be friends. I felt perfectly content with the relationship ending at this point and was ready to move on. Then she began contacting me on a regular basis. She started to open up to me and admitted she’d grown scared that I would leave her and that led to depression and her decision to withdraw from me. She told me she missed me and wanted me to be a bigger part of her life. This continue for the next month, until, out of the blue, she sent me a message one day telling me she wasn’t healthy enough to be in a relationship and thought we should just be friends. At this point I was done and told her that was fine. I was annoyed by her, but still felt good about moving on. Two weeks later, I found out she began dating someone. The guy works with people that have disabilities. I'm sure he felt like a safe option for her. I immediately felt a sense of betrayal and, for reasons I can’t understand, it has caused me to revisit the relationship on a daily basis an idealize her. I’m struggling to understand why I’m having this reaction? I’ve had my heart broken several times in past relationships by people that I had much more invested in. This was not a heart break. Thanks for reading and I apologize for the length.
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