lollypoppet Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 So a couple of weeks ago I was a little bored and went on a dating site, without actually expecting to talk to someone I would like, I just wanted to see what it was like. Anyways, this guy messaged me and we swapped numbers. We have been talking every day since, its been a couple weeks now. He's currently away, but will be returning back in a couple weeks, and has said he would like to go out on dates with me. He told me he likes me more and more every day, he always intiates conversation, he always compliments me etc we do get on, and have a laugh. Sometimes he can be a bit intense, sexually and emotionally, and i think maybe he is ready settle, like even he has mentioned having babies lol. I'm trying to play it cool, keep my cards close to my chest etc, i'm tryina work out if he has a game plan or something, but I am starting to like him too, slowly, but surely, however some weird seed of thought was planted in my head to check the website we used to see if he has gone on it, since we have started speaking, i haven't been on, but i went and had a look and he has been on since. I'm just wondering...he's telling me this stuff, but then he's still going on it, I dont know what this means? I'm not gunna confront him about it, but just curious, as his actions seem different from his words? It's also hard to come to any real conlusions as we haven't been on a date yet! Any advice or perspective would be really appreciated!
DirtyHairy Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 He is probably talking to other people as well as you. You two haven't been on a date yet so he is probably just seeing if anyone else peaks his interest too. Once you two go on a date and if the chemistry is right then I'm sure he won't go on it anymore. By not going on and talking to people he isnt going all in right away which means if you and him don't work out or aren't compatible when you meet then he still has other options. You should still be on the site or talking to other people too. I feel weird saying all that but its pretty true. Don't put all your eggs in one basket as they say 3
newmoon Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 you haven't even met this person and you want them to shut off their account? seriously... you've been messaging for WEEKS? well, yeah he's probably looking for someone not interested in being a pen pal. 1
Author lollypoppet Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 He is probably talking to other people as well as you. You two haven't been on a date yet so he is probably just seeing if anyone else peaks his interest too. Once you two go on a date and if the chemistry is right then I'm sure he won't go on it anymore. By not going on and talking to people he isnt going all in right away which means if you and him don't work out or aren't compatible when you meet then he still has other options. You should still be on the site or talking to other people too. I feel weird saying all that but its pretty true. Don't put all your eggs in one basket as they say Yes, I guess that's true, I will have to wait till he comes back to see how things pan out. I suppose it is hard to tell until you spend some actual time with the person. And you're right...I should, although I find it annoying, i might just distract myself with the other things I normally do.
Author lollypoppet Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 you haven't even met this person and you want them to shut off their account? seriously... you've been messaging for WEEKS? well, yeah he's probably looking for someone not interested in being a pen pal. Not close it completely, that's a bit much, but i dunno, i guess i didnt expect him to still be going on it as frequent. But will probably have to wait until he is back.
KatZee Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 You can't base anything off anything yet. Texting means nothing. There are so many of these guys on these dating sites, they like to just text and text and text and make you feel like there's a "connection" and then you meet up and you never hear from them again. I would tone back the texting about 85%. And he's mentioning babies, yet you two have never even gone on ONE date? Um... yeah.
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