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mortensorchid Established Member

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I have made progress since my anonymous gift giving to the office crush. See this thread for more information:

 

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/498818-need-ask-questions-insecure

 

 

I will not be working at the location anymore come Friday of next week (my company is reassigning me, long story). I did something else secretly, I had an insider give me a listing of contact information for the staff there, and during the day on Friday yesterday I sent him a text. This is how the conversation went down:

 

 

M: It was me the whole time

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Anonymous gifts followed by a text when he never gave you his number?

 

This is seeming creepy.

 

What is your goal here?

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Art_Critic Established Member

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maybe it wasn't an accurate number on the contact sheet..

 

and 30 lashes with a wet noodle for the person in your office giving out personal contact info, that is a horrible breach of keeping the personal info private.

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oh.. and was the number a landline :)

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yesterday I sent him a text. This is how the conversation went down:

 

 

M: It was me the whole time

 

Ah your not much for long texts I take it?... :confused:

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I'm sorry, I posted that before it was complete and the forum would not allow me to edit, so here is the extent of the text conversation from last Friday:

 

 

Me: It was me the whole time.

Him: Hi who is this?

M: I will reveal myself soon.

H: Does this have to do with the ninja turtles gifts in my box?

M: You are correct

M: Perhaps you need a hint as to who I am

H: Yes! I have some guesses but a hint would help!

M: Golden lasso (Last week a student told me that I should dress up as Wonder Woman and tie him up with the golden lasso. Finally our paths crossed and I was able to tell him this we had a laugh about it.)

H: Aha! Yes that was one of my guesses! (my name)?

M: Yes

H: See, I should have guessed! Well thank you so much for the gifts! They've really brightened my mood and I've needed it lately.

M: I am supposed to be nicer to you after all (another story - When I came to his class when I first started off to pull someone out for testing, a student said to me "You need to be nicer to Mr. (Name). He and I looked at each other and I said "Mr. (Name) and I have never had any interaction before this very minute. I have not had a chance to be nice or not nice to him.)

H: Ha ha ha pay no mind to him he was just being obnoxious. But I really do appreciate it. Thank you again.

M: Welcome. I have my ways of getting insider information. Hope it did not creep you out that I got your cell.

H: No it was exciting trying to figure out who the mystery giver was!

M: He sparked it off within.

H: I have the turtle in my car right now keeping me company while I'm stuck in traffic, the highway is backed up.

 

 

I ceased communication after that, I had plans that night and didn't want to occupy the entire evening with texting.

 

 

So the next step? Does this sound positive? Quite honestly I have fears like we all do, but I have to take a risk or two as well don't I?

TigerLilly78 Established Member

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It sounds like he liked the gift I guess thats a good thing and the fact he wasn't freaked out how you got his number it doesn't sound like hes overly flirty I get friend vibe from those texts but thats how some very good relationships start off so who knows time will tell I suppose...

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Well I think it's because we work together. Like I said, we will not be come next week, but I'm fine with it. Maybe after I stop working there ... What to suggest?

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this is creepy, sorry. you don't go get someone's number without their permission and then start revealing yourself (kind of) through a series of crazy texts. examine why you feel the need to go about revealing yourself this way instead of just being upfront and real. i'm serious, this isn't cool and you'll end up being disliked by this person if you reveal yourself and they don't like you/never liked you/don't want you. crazy and psycho.

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I don't know about psycho but it is kind of odd considering it doesn't seam like there was even a friendship before all of this went down it is tipping towards sounding like a obsession more then anything else im sorry OP I hope im wrong and maybe its just coming off the wrong way here..

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I feel like the odd one out here but I thought it was cute.

 

Yes, we all know whoever gave OP the number shouldn't have. But she has it and she used it and it actually seemed well received to me.

 

Having said that, I think phase 3 is you waiting to see what he does now. You've let your interests be known. If he's interested he should pursue I think. Once you are no longer working together he knows where to find you if he wants to.

 

Ball is in his court

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I feel like the odd one out here but I thought it was cute.

 

Yes, we all know whoever gave OP the number shouldn't have. But she has it and she used it and it actually seemed well received to me.

 

Having said that, I think phase 3 is you waiting to see what he does now. You've let your interests be known. If he's interested he should pursue I think. Once you are no longer working together he knows where to find you if he wants to.

 

Ball is in his court

 

he can't pursue when he still doesn't know who it is, lol. not cute.

how do you explain this type of relationship to your friends? "we met when she stalked me?" i can't imagine a guy being impressed by this unless he's a teenager and uber-flattered. maybe some guys will weigh in...

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he can't pursue when he still doesn't know who it is, lol. not cute.

how do you explain this type of relationship to your friends? "we met when she stalked me?" i can't imagine a guy being impressed by this unless he's a teenager and uber-flattered. maybe some guys will weigh in...

 

 

Read the text exchange again. He knows who she is.

 

And if they were to end up dating and someone asks 'how did you meet?' the answer is 'we used to work together'. Simple.

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I didnt think it was creepy either. Step back and let him make the next move.

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I do think its creepy because of the way you went about getting his contact information, and also, why is a student telling you you should tie this guy up? How did that come up?

Did they send you to the other location because of your inappropriate behavior?

Well, whether I think it's creepy or not, if he liked it I guess he will be calling you and asking you out. If he didn't, he won't.

Why didn't you just get to know him since you worked together, though?

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I do think its creepy because of the way you went about getting his contact information, and also, why is a student telling you you should tie this guy up? How did that come up?

Did they send you to the other location because of your inappropriate behavior?

Well, whether I think it's creepy or not, if he liked it I guess he will be calling you and asking you out. If he didn't, he won't.

Why didn't you just get to know him since you worked together, though?

 

The student is a real a******, I think he told this to me to get a rise out of me, but it didn't work. Instead when I repeated it to him he thought it was funny, and I said it in front of some others who work there as well and they had a laugh about it.

 

 

As to the reassignment question, the administrative office did not think I was the right person for the job. There have been many problems with this particular place, my company told me, and they rejected people sent from my company for the last few years and my company was on my side. I will be sent someplace else next semester and glad of it. But that's another story.

 

 

Hard to get to know him since our paths hardly ever cross unless one is looking for another. After it comes to an end? I don't know, he's a good guy based on the interactions I've had with him plus the texting. I guess I can only hope.

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I'm sorry, I posted that before it was complete and the forum would not allow me to edit, so here is the extent of the text conversation from last Friday:

 

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So the next step? Does this sound positive? Quite honestly I have fears like we all do, but I have to take a risk or two as well don't I?

 

Well, that changes things some...

 

Ball is in his court, you have done enough and if you continue to chase him without him letting you catch him then he isn't interested..

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