falxmanolo Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 It's been 1 year and few months since BU. Ex dumped me, totally screwed me over. I took some time to regain my confidence (not completely healed, but I'll say 70%) My current phone broke today so I went back to using my iPhone 4 which I had whilst dating ex. I just saw all the photos on my phone and completely broke down. I cried so much that my chest started to hurt and I had to drink water and calm the hell down. I feel more calm now but very very sad. I've deleted the photos now but I cannot understand... where all those emotions came from? Just seeing photos of us killed my heart. It partially reminded me for being a stupid moron for trusting him so much.. just seeing his face so close to me.. I haven't seen my ex in almost a year and a half.. I thought I was healing but I am feeling so insecure. What if I never really move on? Why does it still hurt my feelings? Is this remotely normal? I feel like I'm losing it. Anybody has any experience similar to this?
Bito Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Absolutely. We all experience set backs and triggers of past feelings that we thought were long gone. It will pass, i promise. Not long ago a mutual friend told me that my ex was moving to my city and for some reason that really hit me hard. It logically makes no bit of difference in my life but it trudged up some stupid feelings that will always be apart of me. Let yourself feel however you need to feel and in a few days I bet you will be back on the right track!
True Gent Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Yeah you're normal. You have a heart and are capeable of love. It takes time, I'm not 100% yet at 1 year on. It's not an easy process.
Dontfindme Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Totally normal OP! Let the feelings pass, they will.
Thegreatestthing Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 It's very normal to be so very sad,the photos were a trigger and brought back a whole host of memories,I don't think you should have deleted them,they were an important part of your life. For now try and develop some of your talents,interests,find your purpose in this life otherwise your self worth will always be tied up with a man.then when the man leaves you ,your self worth will crumble. You were not a moron for trusting him,you just fell in love,everyone does,the good thing is you will fall in love again with someone else.
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