spiderowl Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Wondered whether there was any consensus on making arrangements for first or early dates. For example, what would you normally do about the following: - firming up the date (confirming time, date, venue)? - when would you feel the need for it to be confirmed by? - would you follow up arrangements to check if it's still ok? - what if something cropped up, e.g. weather not so good? What would you consider bad enough to call it off? - if you had to call it off, would you arrange next one or wait? It would be interesting to see what people were comfortable with and if any differences were likely to cause misunderstandings. Thanks
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 I don't get dates very often (about once a year) so I am very reluctant to call any dates off. I've only ever confirmed a date once (the girl texted me to confirm) and I've never had anyone stand me up. In my experience, getting a call or a text before the date usually means she's cancelling. So, I'd prefer silence until the date. If I had to call it off, it would only be for something like several inches of snow and ice, something where it's dangerous to go out on the roads. I would most definitely arrange some alternative right away just to make sure I actually do go on the date.
Author spiderowl Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 Interesting to know. I feel the same and once I've made a date I wouldn't cancel it. I would rather not make a date in the first place than cancel it or defer it. I guess if I had a streaming cold or flu or something I'd cancel and explain. Maybe others are far more casual about dates and think nothing of changing about.
d0nnivain Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 The date should be specified at the ask: dinner Thursday at 7. A confirmation should happen early afternoon the day of the date. Are we still on for tonight? If something comes up, rescheduling should be done then unless it's an emergency in which case, rescheduling is as soon as practical.
Author spiderowl Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 I would have thought so too. Why would someone push for a date and then put it off, especially if they have done it before too? Very odd.
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