DBryYES Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Let me start off by saying: girls have a right to date who they want. Just because I am a good guy to them, it does not mean I am entitled to a relationship with her. She doesn't owe me anything. But still, it sucks for me that she doesn't see me the same way I see her. How I feel about her new guy is irrelevant. I just want her to be happy. I will continue to be there for her as a friend when she needs me. But it hurts though that it's not with me. Is it okay for me to feel this way?
Mrin Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Let me start off by saying: girls have a right to date who they want. Just because I am a good guy to them, it does not mean I am entitled to a relationship with her. She doesn't owe me anything. But still, it sucks for me that she doesn't see me the same way I see her. How I feel about her new guy is irrelevant. I just want her to be happy. I will continue to be there for her as a friend when she needs me. But it hurts though that it's not with me. Is it okay for me to feel this way? Absolultely! And that's a heathy attitude you have there.
Author DBryYES Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 Absolultely! And that's a heathy attitude you have there. I guess. I wish I can make this feeling go away.
ScreaminEagle Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 I guess. I wish I can make this feeling go away. You can, by avoiding her at all costs. The more you see her, become friends with her, the more you will have to delve into the platonic underworld of what she does, possibly with other men. I suggest going no contact and moving on, things will get better.
spiderowl Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Of course it is! Feeling have a life of their own, they need to flow through the body and find resolution. If you've already talked with her about this and she is not interested in more than friendship, then maybe tell her you would like her as more but will look towards other women for a romantic relationship instead. That way, you've been honest with yourself and her which is better than having to pretend. Best thing then is to move on to other women while maintaining what friendship you can comfortably cope with. For what it's worth, I married my best friend of three years. We didn't get together for two years. Sometimes things change. I don't believe the Friend's Zone is a fixed as some do. However, it is fixed for some. A beloved friend going on to find a different love can sometimes be a reminder of what you might lose and a trigger for looking at them differently. Sometimes it's a relief though. Unfortunately, it's hard to tell. If she seeks out your company a lot, there is obviously something there, but what it will become in the long term is hard to know. 1
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