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Dating,Love, and I Love You... three words and ideas that escape me


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I'm not usually a person to reach out for help but after my last set of troubles I found this site and everyone has been fantastic on it and for that, thank you!

 

Now my last relationship and breakup ended in August of 2013 (two weeks after my first dog I grew up with had passed away so that just added to it) and that whole breakup tore me down for nearly a year but now I can say I'm fully over my ex and she pops up in conversations now and then just as "My ex" or "the Brazilian girl" and nothing more. But now I've noticed that I just cannot say "I love you" to anyone... not even my own family, not even my dog... The words just seem so shallow, distant, and meaningless to me and I'm very uncomfortable every time they come out of my mouth or through a text to family and friends and I honestly just don't fell love. I can say I love something but I cannot direct those words at anyone. I don't really know what the hell is going on and it's really disconcerting for me as I use to be someone who loved hard and true.

 

Not only are those words escaping me, but the whole idea of dating just disgusts me. It's so strange. I want a partner, someone I can fully trust in, but I'm repelled by the idea of dating and I guess having to figure someone new out. I had one short lived interest in this girl I would talk too now and then, but I pushed myself into trying to date her (I still wasn't over my ex so I was looking at this girl as a rebound) and it just didn't work out. Since then though, no girl has sparked any interest in me other than sexual ones. I don't get bothered by others and their PDA, in fact 2 great friends of mine have been dating for a while and I love seeing the happiness between them!

 

My current situation isn't a bad one at all. I'm in nursing school, I'm deeply devoted into powerlifting and becoming the strongest version of myself, and my friends are always there to listen and help though I never open up to them about my problems. Feels weird too do that anymore. This is why I'm so confused. I can't understand my inability to love anymore. It's truly scary to not be who I use to be.

 

I guess I can sum this all up into "I don't know what the hell to do..."

 

-Blaine

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It might be because you have lost trust in love.

 

You should not be thinking a lot about it, because none of your opinion or action are going to help you in this situation. You can avoid, one day you may find yourself bored with these thoughts, or friendly.

 

Hope you will remain fair though.

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It might be because you have lost trust in love.

 

You should not be thinking a lot about it, because none of your opinion or action are going to help you in this situation. You can avoid, one day you may find yourself bored with these thoughts, or friendly.

 

Hope you will remain fair though.

 

Thank you for this :) I'm just gonna do my best to avoid thinking about this and what I used to be. One day someone will come along that'll bring back that spark hopefully

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