mikado461 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Hello, I would like to ask (mostly) guys abt their opinion on a guy s behavior. I met him during a party last year in my home country, and he asked me if i had a boyfriend, which i did so I told him yes. Nonetheless we were very attracted to each other and after he insister the whole night we ended up kissing, i apologized about this to my boyfriend and i still feel bad about what happened. The day after the party the guy was expecting to see me but long story short I didnt turn up and friends told me it really upsetted him. When i left my home country to go where my boyfriend lives i had forgotten about this guy but he kept in touch and messaged me a lot on facebook(i never did). When my boyfriend saw this he asked me to delete the guy, so i did and the guy kept in touch on whatsapp, but very brief comversations and i could feel he was a bit hurt. I went back several times to my home country and through common friends he heard about it and got upset again that i didnt tell him i was here, as he expected i would and we would see each other. So after 6 months when he knew i was in our country he contacted me and clearly asked to see me, telling me "no games this time". I saw him, was very cold to him and tried to reject every of his gestures of affection. He readded me on facebook though, but i deleted him again when i left the country as it was my boyfriend's wish. After how i treated him he stopped giving news, completely, and that s when it gets bad for me. I missed him a lot and got used to his regular messages. So i tried to Get in touch to see if anything was wrong but he seemed normal. I felt like he avoided me or wasnt into seeing each othr again. Then there was summer, he traveled, and i didnt hear abt him. So i did nothing. 3 months later he readded me a third time and started to contact me again. A few days ago he asked To see me and i didnt mean to refuse but i think thats how he interpreted it.. My boyfried just doesnt want me to go out until 11 at night but i just told the other guy i have a curfew... Then he didnt reach again. Anyway i feel like thjs guy just wants to steal me from my boyfriend and isnt really interested in me beyond that. Please tell me what to do, as he keeps coming in and out of my life and i am getting attached to him. He even Talked to me about marriage, like is he just Playing with my head?? Should i ask to see him and clarify everything? Should i delete Him again from everywhere so he cannot contact me??? Help.. I cant sleep
Bumpin in My Trunk Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Brah How to Be Loyal to Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend (with Illustrations) Number one is most important. Would you want him to do this to you? And as many posters would advise. Either break up with him now or leave this other guy. And I would do it NOW.
Author mikado461 Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 Thank you for your answer. Unfortunately the reason i havent been able to make a decision is that i dont know what this guy wants, and im sureif i knew id be able to discernate my feelings. Im not with him btw, i saw him twice only. But he is so insistent and then he flies away. Should i just cut any contact without consideration?
Woggle Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 It seems he is and it looks like he is succeeding.
d0nnivain Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 If you think all he's interested in is the chase -- the conquest of getting you away from your BF -- he sounds like a cad. Why are you still even talking to him? 1
smackie9 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Obviously the guy is just being obsessed with you. If he was a normal guy he would have dropped all interest out of respect. He is a nut job, stop being an attention whore and delete/block him. Gosh if I were your BF I would have cut you off.
cif Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 (edited) Since you have a BF why do you care how this other guy feels? Hint: he feels horny. Edited November 15, 2014 by cif
cif Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 If there was feelings i could wash away with rationality i would wash them away right now, but the reason i came here is that there is no rationaliy or right equations with emotions. Done with justifying. Thank you all K. So fact.. you have feelings for this guy?
Author mikado461 Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 I dont know what i have for this guy. I just know its not over yet, still not clear what he wants, still not clear why and when he will recontact, and no matter how much i push away he always comes back and for 3 months i really thought it was over. But he doesnt like to be forgotten... And he s never been rude, so i cant be rude either. But i m not a toy. Its ok i just decided ill leave things as they are. He can ask me out again ill never see him. Thank you again.
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