Still not over him?

[catscatsandmorecats]

Alright, I'm new to loveshack and signed up because I need advice on a matter that I just can't seem to get over.

 

That matter would be my ex boyfriend.

 

I cannot seem to move on from this relationship. I don't know if I'm stuck on the relationship, on him, on the idea of him or what.

 

We dated for almost 3 years, starting in high school and into college somewhat, now being that I was young, naive and in love, I decided tos tay home for college so that I could be by him.

 

Things got messy about two and a half years into the relationship, we were fighting all the time and it just wasn't a good ordeal, we were both changing and growing up and the relationship wasn't working. Anyway, fast foward, we made it to about 3 years, he broke up with me shortly after our 3 year anniversary and long story short, the breakup was brutal, he said some really harsh things and that was that.

 

It's been about two and a half years since we've broken up, so I feel like I should be over him by now, but I'm not and I don't know why.

 

I have him blocked on facebook, his number is blocked on my phone, we actually haven't spoken in a bout a year (I was in the hospital and called him one night when I was scared and had pain drugs in me.) We don't talk, he's in a new relationship and seems happy enough, according to mutual friends and what not.

 

I just can't seem to get over him, or the idea of him, or whatever, and I'm really struggling with it, am I crazy? I know he is not good for me, I know that he wasn't good for me, our relationship would not work even if we wanted it to (which he didn't.) and I just don't know.

 

I've dated other people, I've been in other short term relationships but can't seem to get past this relationship, I keep comparing them to my first relationship and it's bad. If anything, I think I'm in love with the idea of my first real relationship, not the actual relationship.

 

I don't know, I feel stuck and I honestly feel so much better just posting this here. Thank you if you did read all of this.

[Reels]

You might be missing him, but since you have dated others and there is probably no possibility to go for him, I guess you should take a break from relationships and try to think if you were wrong anywhere.