Brutel Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 Hi all, I'm new here I'm just trying to talk to someone here because I don't really want anyone I know in real life to know about this so here it goes. My girlfriend of 3 years and I got into a fight and didn't talk for 4 days. I found a text on her phone from some guy that said hey what's up you just not feelin it? She claimed to have no idea why he'd send that, bashed me for even accusing Her. Come to find out she went on a date with this guy after 2 days of is not talking (we didn't break up). She admitted to it after lying for about 2 weeks and only admitted because I caught her. She says they went out to eat and watched a movie at his house and he kissed her goodnight and she didn't like it. ( she also called this kid maybe 15 times over a 2 hour spam back on her birthday when she was drunk, I wasn't with her because I had work). She says it's because she had to ask him something, but he never even answered the phone? So, now we get back together and talk after those 4 days. This was a Sunday. Monday she went to work, got wasted with a co-worker (2 guys). Didn't talk to me at all, not that I tried to contact her either, but she called me crying and said she got blacked out drunk and didn't remember anything. Now I know what that usually means, and she said she called the kid and he told her they just hung out and drank and listened to music. So I kept asking her for about 2 days, and once again shed bash me for thinking anything happened, and both times she called someone to pick her up from my house, and just screamed and cried and made me feel like ****. So, once again, come to find out she made out with this kid and that's supposedly all that happened. It took me over a month and I finally heard that from someone else, I confronted her and she cried admitted it blah blah same routine but she STILL won't tell me the full story, as she doesn't rememeber, but she talked to the kid on the phone for an hour the next morning. Anyways, I realized that the 2 people she stated after with both got blocked on her Facebook, and she says its because she didn't want me Mad ( keep in mind they snap chatted and such before and she'd tell me about it, so why would I be mad ). She blocked them before I knew the supposed making out thing. I told her I was going to get an std test and she completely flipped out again, saying if I have an std it's me not her, telling me I'm trying to make her believe things that didn't happen even though all The evidence I've gather says more did. Could someone please give me a solid input on this hole mess? I don't want to leave her but I feel she's not telling all there is to know and anytime I ask she cries and freaks. Just like she did when she was lying before. I just want other opinions so I don't think I'm crazy or something. Any feedback would be great. Thank you
losangelena Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 Why do you want to be someone who cheats on you and then lies about it? Sounds like too much chaos to me. 2
Author Brutel Posted November 14, 2014 Author Posted November 14, 2014 I agree with you, but the thing is she just goes cRazy about how much she loves me realizes what she did etc and wont stop. that's what I don't understand is how are you gonna say that to me and then do this to me When I'm not looking? Do you agree more happened?
losangelena Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 I would try and focus more on what she says than what she does. I know you want to believe her, but really? She's not acting like she loves you. I'd lay down a boundary and see what she does. Tell her you won't tolerate her behavior.
Author Brutel Posted November 14, 2014 Author Posted November 14, 2014 Ok thank you i just really wanted some more opinions. Anyone else able to Add some input?
Omei Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Shes not an honest person, not even when you confront her when you have knowledge of her actions she will still lie as if she lies enough it will become the truth. I would leave you cannot trust this person, she is using the excuse black out drunk as a softener for her actions so you will be more forgiving or take some kind of slight pity or understanding, big fat excuse. Everytime you have a problem seems like she's the type to run off and have fun thinking it has no consequence because your on the outs, if you didnt officially break up thats cheating. Don't let her fool you into being a fool.
Recommended Posts