sagetalk Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Definitely a bit rude to write off someone just because they're pretty and automatically call them a c*nt when you have never spoken to them. Why be like that? . It's a defense mechanism. In online dating, there is almost no chance a woman who is seen as a 9 or 10 (top 5-10% of women) by men's standards will message an average (10%-50% range) guy back. It is far more likely she will just ignore the message. People protect their own self esteem by convincing themselves the other person (who did not message back) is a jerk. In reality, the 9 and 10 girls are not jerks to men they view as equals or better (top 5%-10% of men), in fact, they treat them like an average girl treats an average guy. Frequent world travelers (men who are well traveled), men with large and/or powerful social circles, wealthy men, professional athletes, do very well with these types of women. I bet they have the time of their life with them. Does the fact that highly desirable girls blow off average guys make them jerks? I think it makes them sensible.
LostOnes05 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Hmmmmm...it's ok to admit that you've seen it, we won't judge Have you had relationships with the type of woman who responded well to shirtless pics, or just casual hookups? If you're on it just looking for sex, I can see that it would help. I also ignore any guy with posed shirtless pics, no matter how nice his body is. Shirtless pics while doing activities are borderline OK. Overall it's a big turn-off for me, but I won't hold it against him if it's a picture of him hanging out on a boat without his shirt on or something. But posed shirtless bathroom selfie? Delete! No idea how the thread transitioned to focus on me but no Tayken, I haven't seen Magic Mike haha. And Ruby Slippers, I am definitely not interested in casual hookups and have never had those kinds of relationships...just not for me. In fact, since then I have been attracting women who actually give me their number without suggestion. They actually ask me things about myself, instead of me dominating the conversation to get them to talk. I was just suggesting that women are just as visual as men when it comes to choosing a partner. I was helping someone move something when the picture was taken of me (no bathroom selfies here). I find selfies in general to be a bit egotistical. And some of us can't afford boats...yet!:laugh:
Author mrgoodcat Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 (edited) It's a defense mechanism. In online dating, there is almost no chance a woman who is seen as a 9 or 10 (top 5-10% of women) by men's standards will message an average (10%-50% range) guy back. It is far more likely she will just ignore the message. People protect their own self esteem by convincing themselves the other person (who did not message back) is a jerk. In reality, the 9 and 10 girls are not jerks to men they view as equals or better (top 5%-10% of men), in fact, they treat them like an average girl treats an average guy. Frequent world travelers (men who are well traveled), men with large and/or powerful social circles, wealthy men, professional athletes, do very well with these types of women. I bet they have the time of their life with them. Does the fact that highly desirable girls blow off average guys make them jerks? I think it makes them sensible. Can spot a feminist from a mile away here. Try harder. I've made a catfish profile a while back with Andreas Wilson picture....he's a Swedish male model, really good looking. Well, guess what, the only girls replying to him were 7-8's at about 30% rate. The 9-10 barbie-doll looking hoes would never even respond, and I've made messages casual,, but meaningful about their profile. So ease off the keyboard, Moby. I'd have to agree that women were more prone to look at and message my profile when I had a picture with my shirt off (i didn't take the picture). Prior to that I would have to message women with a relatively low response rate and the only women to message me first were linebackers for the Pittsburgh Steelers. Never understood why that would happen, maybe I look vulnerable or something haha. But when I put up the one shirtless picture, I started getting messaged by women I would typically be attracted to. I am in extremely great shape but it doesn't translate in the rest of my pictures where my shirt is on. Women are just as visual as men, whether they like to admit it or not...which is the very reason why Magic Mike (didn't and won't be seeing it) was such a popular film. Will it turn some women off? Sure. But in my case, if you have pics caring for children in a developing country, on safari, with suits on and you only get messaged when you put up a shirtless picture then that is very telling. Exactly that. I'm sure we're in different parts of the country, but hardly surprising we've experienced the same result. Funny thing is that two of the girls I'm talking with and one I've already met up with are extermely prudent and religious. Those good girls are often the ones craving sexual aspects the most, so it's actually not a bad way to find a quality girl for the long run. P.S. Feminstas on here can suck it!!! Edited November 17, 2014 by mrgoodcat
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