mrgoodcat Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 (edited) Well, I've stumbled at first on POF and Okstupid, but was able to get some traction recently. It seems that women want you take your shirt off and show a bit of motivation and personality in your profile. I only got about 2-3 "hey's" the whole time from few black ladies and one from 40 year old lady who said she was bored and so I do have to message girls I like. I'm not going for 9 or 10's because those are either hookers, straight-up golddiggers, or just absolute c*nts who want something unrealistic. I only message fairly cute nice girls with at least 1 paragraph in their profile. So far got 4 prospective phone numbers....(5 but I don't count the whale girl who just gave it out to me like I'm Captain Ahab). We text regularly, which is now taking up some time, so I'm trying to tone that down. I expect at least 2 to flake for the upcoming dates, and it probably won't work out with 1 of the other two, so I should at least have 1 girl for casual dating. If not, I reload and go send out few more quality messages. That's my edited pic for privacy. I have couple of body pics and one face selfie. http://oi61.tinypic.com/miyqlf.jpg With all that said, the response to my messages ratio is probably 2 out of every 10-15 messages, which kinda sucks and is time consuming. However, if I focus on key demographic of girls that I think are attainable, the response rate usually goes up to 2 out of 6-7 messages. Edited November 14, 2014 by mrgoodcat
Divasu Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 If men are still posting pics with their shirts off, and women with close up boob shots, then I'd say I have to disagree. 1
Author mrgoodcat Posted November 14, 2014 Author Posted November 14, 2014 If men are still posting pics with their shirts off, and women with close up boob shots, then I'd say I have to disagree. Funny thing is I avoided the whole shirt off thing...but stats don't lie. Shirt off.....way more interest and way higher response rate. You just have to be in good shape. For women, I actually prefer not to go for girls who pose in bikinis, but a random shot on the beach or at the pool is ok. Soooooo do you have a question? Not everything is a question thread. This is more of an observation for discussion. Note my join date, son.
Divasu Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 Funny thing is I avoided the whole shirt off thing...but stats don't lie. Shirt off.....way more interest and way higher response rate. You just have to be in good shape. For women, I actually prefer not to go for girls who pose in bikinis, but a random shot on the beach or at the pool is ok. Well I guess it all depends on what one is looking for. Of course if women see a man's bare naked chest she may be attracted towards it. So, whatever works.
losangelena Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 I would typically avoid men who had shirtless pictures. I would automatically disregard as players or only looking for casual, NSA. Just my $.02. 3
Author mrgoodcat Posted November 14, 2014 Author Posted November 14, 2014 I would typically avoid men who had shirtless pictures. I would automatically disregard as players or only looking for casual, NSA. Just my $.02. I think I definitely lose some of the audience exactly like that, but I think it easily makes up for it with for women who are not opposed to it. When I message women I don't just say "Hey, beautiful"....or "you're so pretty" or "Good morning, how are you" like most retards write. I actually read a profile and ask something about it. I think that's why I stopped messaging bimbos who have smiley faces or "Just ask" in their profile. And after they reply I can actually hold a decent conversation, IMO. Wait about 3-5 messages in and ask if we should exchange numbers.
losangelena Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 So you're saying you're down with NSA? A thoughtful approach is appreciated, though I can't help but think that maybe you're shooting yourself in the foot by keeping a shirtless pic up. It gives off kind of a "himbo" vibe when everything else you're doing would suggest otherwise. If you're liking your results, then by all means carry on! 1
jcrew11 Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 Women primarily care about "lifestyle photos" such as "travel photos" and "activity photos." Sure some women just care about a guy's looks and face. But most women want to see the guy's personality and what he does for fun. A woman who wants a relationship wants to determine what kind of things they will do together besides just sex. Better yet, women often look for men who are fun and will enhance their boring lives. So if she's always wanted to go to Paris, and you take a photo of yourself in front of the Eiffel Tower, then she will want to talk to you about Paris and maybe travel there with you if you date. Photos of activities also gives women something to talk to you about. Make it as easiest as possible for a woman to initiate a conversation. Take photos of you with a cute dog, or at a beautiful beach, or at some exotic location or doing some other fun thing.
losangelena Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Better yet, women often look for men who are fun and will enhance their boring lives. Uncalled for! 1
Phoe Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 I'm not going for 9 or 10's because those are either hookers, straight-up golddiggers, or just absolute c*nts who want something unrealistic. I only message fairly cute nice girls with at least 1 paragraph in their profile. . Definitely a bit rude to write off someone just because they're pretty and automatically call them a c*nt when you have never spoken to them. Why be like that? I personally am against shirtless photos. When I was on OLD I avoided the men who posted shirtless photos. Not my style, sends a bad vibe. 1
Author mrgoodcat Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 Definitely a bit rude to write off someone just because they're pretty and automatically call them a c*nt when you have never spoken to them. Why be like that? I personally am against shirtless photos. When I was on OLD I avoided the men who posted shirtless photos. Not my style, sends a bad vibe. Most pretty women are by and large c*nts. And the notch above that are barbie doll golddigers.....something like Kim Kardashian types. The absolute trash. This largely reflects my opinion and has been the case in my experiences. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lzz4QtbTu6M Btw, I think you have a fair personality.
Tayken Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Most pretty women are by and large c*nts. And the notch above that are barbie dolls.....something like Kim Kardashian types. This largely reflects my opinion and has been the case in my experiences. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lzz4QtbTu6M Btw, I think you have a fair personality. Hmmmm....although the C word is common where I come from, it's not one I have used willy nilly. However, I always gobsmacked when I hear females refer to themselves as b*tches like one young lady poster on here yesterday
Author mrgoodcat Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 B*tches and c*nts are close synonyms in circles. I prefer it since it's one syllable. C*nt. Just rolls off the tongue.
Mrin Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 B*tches and c*nts are close synonyms in circles. I prefer it since it's one syllable. C*nt. Just rolls off the tongue. Synonyms??? In my neck of the woods that's like saying light beer and moonshine are pretty much the same. Lol 1
KatZee Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 If men are still posting pics with their shirts off, and women with close up boob shots, then I'd say I have to disagree. Yep. Funny thing is I avoided the whole shirt off thing...but stats don't lie. Shirt off.....way more interest and way higher response rate. What "stats" are these? I'm on POF and had OKCupid and whenever a guy messages me with a photo like that? Next. You say you're only messaging "cute, nice girls" with a paragraph written in their bio. I'm question what kind of girls/women you're actually attracting with these shirt off pictures... and it's kind of obvious regarding that "whale" who just threw her number at you. Not quite sure what you're looking for on there, casual dating, relationship, f.uck buddy...? I guess if you're going for the first or third option, by all means, no-shirt away, but I don't think many quality, relationship-looking women go for the no shirt pics. When I see guys like that message me I think, "he's here for one reason" and the message gets immediately nexted and deleted. I want to see pictures of him doing things he's interested in, him with friends, I want to see what kind of person he is. A naked body tells me nothing. 1
KatZee Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Most pretty women are by and large c*nts. Eh, have to agree to disagree. I know many pretty women, myself included. We are not "bitches" or "c*unts." 1
KatZee Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Women primarily care about "lifestyle photos" such as "travel photos" and "activity photos." Sure some women just care about a guy's looks and face. But most women want to see the guy's personality and what he does for fun. A woman who wants a relationship wants to determine what kind of things they will do together besides just sex. Better yet, women often look for men who are fun and will enhance their boring lives. So if she's always wanted to go to Paris, and you take a photo of yourself in front of the Eiffel Tower, then she will want to talk to you about Paris and maybe travel there with you if you date. Photos of activities also gives women something to talk to you about. Make it as easiest as possible for a woman to initiate a conversation. Take photos of you with a cute dog, or at a beautiful beach, or at some exotic location or doing some other fun thing. I was about to hit the "like" button until I hit that. You kinda just invalidated your entire post.
irc333 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 What I don't get is, why does someone need to EVERYTHING about someone prior to meeting. Sometimes, I'd see a brief synopsis on a person's profile and then its followed with , "I don't want to give too much away, sometimes its best to find out more after meeting."
KatZee Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Well, I sure as heck can't yet... don't have that cash to blow and a ferrari to go with it and penthouse and a boat. That's what those women want, don't kid yourself, boo. Almost ALL of them, one doesn't need to be cynical or "sour" about anything. I will be pulling 9's and 10 before I'm 30, using them and then discarding. That's the purpose of 9's and 10's. But when looking for a wife, you settle around a 7 or and 8. P.S. If your are a chubby feminist....I really don't care. Hmmm. I'm sorry, but where are you getting your information about attractive women? What are you even talking about that 9's and 10's want cash to blow and Ferrari's? Stereotyping much? How would you even know what a 9 or a 10 wants, since you proclaim to not even bother messaging them? I have some VERY attractive friends, and I can't recall one instance where they asked for money or a Ferrari. You're going to "use" and "discard" attractive women? Why? Because you're so broken, misogynistic, and jaded, that you want to drag other people down to your s.hitty level? Get the hell over yourself. You're not even attractive.
Tayken Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Eh, have to agree to disagree. I know many pretty women, myself included. We are not "bitches" or "c*unts." The irony in the post you responded to...women, b and c word all in one sentence. I'll be damned I know what some women are, but keeping that off the boards
KatZee Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 The irony in the post you responded to...women, b and c word all in one sentence. I'll be damned I know what some women are, but keeping that off the boards I guess your post is going over my head. I don't see any irony in what I wrote at all. I'm responding directly to what this clown is saying. That attractive women are c.unts and bitches. I disagreed.
LostOnes05 Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Before this thread became a "B and C" word bank, I'd have to agree that women were more prone to look at and message my profile when I had a picture with my shirt off (i didn't take the picture). Prior to that I would have to message women with a relatively low response rate and the only women to message me first were linebackers for the Pittsburgh Steelers. Never understood why that would happen, maybe I look vulnerable or something haha. But when I put up the one shirtless picture, I started getting messaged by women I would typically be attracted to. I am in extremely great shape but it doesn't translate in the rest of my pictures where my shirt is on. Women are just as visual as men, whether they like to admit it or not...which is the very reason why Magic Mike (didn't and won't be seeing it) was such a popular film. Will it turn some women off? Sure. But in my case, if you have pics caring for children in a developing country, on safari, with suits on and you only get messaged when you put up a shirtless picture then that is very telling.
Tayken Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Before this thread became a "B and C" word bank, I'd have to agree that women were more prone to look at and message my profile when I had a picture with my shirt off (i didn't take the picture). Prior to that I would have to message women with a relatively low response rate and the only women to message me first were linebackers for the Pittsburgh Steelers. Never understood why that would happen, maybe I look vulnerable or something haha. But when I put up the one shirtless picture, I started getting messaged by women I would typically be attracted to. I am in extremely great shape but it doesn't translate in the rest of my pictures where my shirt is on. Women are just as visual as men, whether they like to admit it or not...which is the very reason why Magic Mike (didn't and won't be seeing it) was such a popular film. Will it turn some women off? Sure. But in my case, if you have pics caring for children in a developing country, on safari, with suits on and you only get messaged when you put up a shirtless picture then that is very telling. Hmmmmm...it's ok to admit that you've seen it, we won't judge
Ruby Slippers Posted November 16, 2014 Posted November 16, 2014 Will it turn some women off? Sure. But in my case, if you have pics caring for children in a developing country, on safari, with suits on and you only get messaged when you put up a shirtless picture then that is very telling. Have you had relationships with the type of woman who responded well to shirtless pics, or just casual hookups? If you're on it just looking for sex, I can see that it would help. I also ignore any guy with posed shirtless pics, no matter how nice his body is. Shirtless pics while doing activities are borderline OK. Overall it's a big turn-off for me, but I won't hold it against him if it's a picture of him hanging out on a boat without his shirt on or something. But posed shirtless bathroom selfie? Delete! 1
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