ddlovexx Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 (edited) Hey guys, I'm thinking a lot today and I don't really know how to make sense of all my thoughts. I've been dating this guy for almost two months, and he's literally the most wonderful man I've ever been with. All he does is love me; he does every little thing for me, he supports my music career, he makes me laugh until I can't breathe and he's there at the drop of a hat if I need him. He's shown me a love that I could have only had hoped for in the past. He asked me to move in with him (especially since I'm there pretty much every night anyway) and I said yes. It'll be two months before my lease is up so there's some time, and even though it hasn't been long- I have no second thoughts about moving in with him. In fact, I've been in much longer relationships and said no to this question. I do love him and see myself long term with him, but there have been a few little things that have been bugging me lately. Luckily, we're very good about talking about things, whether it be a disagreement or feelings or whatever. I think I'm overthinking our personality differences/differences interests. For example, we have very different musical tastes. Normally this wouldn't bother me, but it's literally night and day. He doesn't seem to like ANYTHING I like. (My interests range from Beatles to Springsteen to Oldies to John Mayer... I'm a musician so I have a very wide range of loves/influences.) I was watching the movie Jersey Boys and I wanted him to watch it with me and pretty much the entire time, he sat on his phone not paying attention. This kind of music is a big part of my life and who I am as I grew up listening to it. I asked him to watch it with me (instead of being on his phone) and his response was something along the lines 'Well sorry I don't like 50's DooWop music. Idk what you want from me. You can just watch it." I don't know why I'm so bugged by this. I mean he asked me if I'd go to a few concerts with him, artists I've never really heard much of and I know I won't care for, but I said I'd go because why not. I kinda figure he'll never come to one of my concerts. He pokes fun at me liking legendary acts like The Beatles or The Eagles... it gets frustrating. Another thing is that he tends to do is joke heavily. Now, I'm all for a good laugh but he's aware that I'm somewhat sensitive so I've made that clear. When we go out with his friends, he jokes too much to the point where I don't know how to respond and I just sit there... maybe seeming somewhat like a "bitch" but the truth is just that sometimes I literally don't have a response for the sarcasm or joke that he sends my way. Why does it always have to be sarcasm? Can't we just have a normal convo? He does this moreso when we are with friends than when we are alone. Am I just overthinking? I don't want to seem like a prude but at the same time, I'm pretty witty and I literally don't even know how to joke back sometimes, especially because some of his "pokes" at me aren't necessarily funny to me. He also isn't very close with his family, and I'm somewhat close with mine now that I'm older and they're older and becoming ill. I am HUGE on holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas, and he isn't. He said he would make me some turkey and stuffing for Thanksgiving and that would have to be our compromise because he doesn't like turkey or traditional holiday things. I can't imagine not having a family with traditional holidays celebrations, I was brought up on them and I enjoy them and think they create lots of memories and bring families closer. Any input? I love him and want this to work out long term... I just want to be sure that our differences aren't going to pull us apart. He says he wants to be with me long term as well and he's pretty understanding and loving when I talk to him, I know he doesn't mean to hurt me at all. He loves me for who I am... I don't ever have to wonder how he feels about me, he shows me every day how much he loves me and I know that in the end, that is most important. Edited November 14, 2014 by ddlovexx
smackie9 Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 Compatibility is what holds a relationship tegether for the long haul...2 months and you are already seeing it's going to be a problem down the road....sorry but I don't think this is going to last. Tip: a relationship cannot survive on love alone. Anyways it's only two months...there is no way of ever really knowing that there is a furture. During the honeymoon stage, future, marriage, kids is just talk and shouldn't be taken as promises. So don't count on it at this time.
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