Gloria25 Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 People need to stop with this "real men" and "real women" garbage. Humans are all built differently. There are women who naturally are very skinny and actually TRY VERY HARD to put on weight. My mother is like that. She is naturally very thin, and drinks weight gain shakes to try to get some more on her. There is NO STANDARD for what women "naturally" are. Agreed, but I think there is some psycho/biological thing that takes place with curvy women (I don't mean obese and/or overweight). I think it's like those women project "child bearing" hips...lol. Then, there's the femininity that comes with breasts. I mean, when my period comes and/or I'm excited, the "twins" get nice and curvy and pointy....it's like they're saying "come and get us!!!"
slizl Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 nv19, if your waistline looks like that, you are an ******* for even posting that you have belly fat 2
Author nv19 Posted November 14, 2014 Author Posted November 14, 2014 nv19, if your waistline looks like that, you are an ******* for even posting that you have belly fat I keep trying to post how below my belly button looks but it doesn't work I'll try one more time if it doesn't work I'm done. You'll just have to take my word for it my lower tummy has an extra roll on it but I have a small waistline https://fbcdn-photos-g-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xpa1/v/t1.0-0/10418144_1391920544432559_8441121520121063901_n.jpg?oh=7947928ee38ee1e2fb321e050d4d9c9f&oe=54D878E1&__gda__=1424644235_62ce8ce06c48433fb0198b09b9ba77ab
slizl Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 NV, you are fine. Your belly looks great. Nothing to be worried about at all. 1
leavesonautumn Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 People need to stop with this "real men" and "real women" garbage. Humans are all built differently. There are women who naturally are very skinny and actually TRY VERY HARD to put on weight. My mother is like that. She is naturally very thin, and drinks weight gain shakes to try to get some more on her. There is NO STANDARD for what women "naturally" are. "Real women have curves" is the most annoying saying. So, what are women who are naturally thin? Are they not real women? It's like that new song All about that bass, it's actually hurting our view of women and not helping. Personally, I like being "soft" and it has turned men on. There are men who like extremely fit women, that's okay with me, everyone can have a preference but it has never hindered me in dating. However, if you want to work out or change your look, do it for yourself and not to attract men. When I was about 20 pounds lighter, I still had curves, just how my body is built and it's about accepting who we are. It's like women who want the "thigh gap", you either have it or you don't.
Phoe Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 It's like that new song All about that bass, it's actually hurting our view of women and not helping. I hate that song so much. It's sends such a horrible message. And people actually glorify that. SMH. 2
Author nv19 Posted November 14, 2014 Author Posted November 14, 2014 NV, you are fine. Your belly looks great. Nothing to be worried about at all. I didn't say that was me. I said the lower part is basically how my lower belly looks but my waistline looks like the previously picture.
Omei Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 "Real women have curves" is the most annoying saying. So, what are women who are naturally thin? Are they not real women? It's like that new song All about that bass, it's actually hurting our view of women and not helping. Personally, I like being "soft" and it has turned men on. There are men who like extremely fit women, that's okay with me, everyone can have a preference but it has never hindered me in dating. However, if you want to work out or change your look, do it for yourself and not to attract men. When I was about 20 pounds lighter, I still had curves, just how my body is built and it's about accepting who we are. It's like women who want the "thigh gap", you either have it or you don't. Oh how times change ! I remember being in middle school and if girls had a thigh gap people would bully and say she's been screwed so much that her legs are permanently parted, now its desired and all the rage. For every new body look that fades in and out over years of time we would have to be different people 7 times over in our life spans to be the current image of beauty its silly. 1
Author nv19 Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 Oh how times change ! I remember being in middle school and if girls had a thigh gap people would bully and say she's been screwed so much that her legs are permanently parted, now its desired and all the rage. For every new body look that fades in and out over years of time we would have to be different people 7 times over in our life spans to be the current image of beauty its silly. That seems stupid.
Gloria25 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 I hate that song so much. It's sends such a horrible message. And people actually glorify that. SMH. O....M....G!!! I HATE that song with a passion!!! Whenever I hear it, I change the station. Don't get me started on Ziggy Azelea and Niki Minaj...
KatZee Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 I didn't say that was me. I said the lower part is basically how my lower belly looks but my waistline looks like the previously picture. So you basically just have loose skin on your lower stomach. You mention how you went up to an F cup but now you're back to a B. I would assume that means at one point you were obese and your skin stretched beyond it's elasticity level and it no longer retracts back to it's original position?
Author nv19 Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 So you basically just have loose skin on your lower stomach. You mention how you went up to an F cup but now you're back to a B. I would assume that means at one point you were obese and your skin stretched beyond it's elasticity level and it no longer retracts back to it's original position? I was never obese. I just had big boobs at one point.
Tayla Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Based solely on description and medical books, the muscles surrounding the area of concern are weakened, Fat clusters have formed fat pockets. If its drooping to the extent described, the poster should seek medical advice on how to minimize the stress currently being exhibited in that area. It will eventually create further complications as the person progress's thru life. The Chest area is also another gathering spots for such fatty tissue....which explains how its one of the first areas to be reduced during weight loss programs for females. Bottom line is, if you are okay with it, then so be it. If your partner is okay with it, so be it. What others perceive is a matter of opinion.
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Belly fat isn't a turn-on, but it's not as huge of an issue for men who like curvy women. And especially if those men are curvy themselves. I don't know anyone who finds "fat" itself attractive...I find that a bit disturbing that someone would find fat in itself attractive, just seems a bit weird. The point is however, guys don't have the options women have, and even women with belly fat still come equipped with breast and a vagina...necessities for men. So it's not like you need to be a size zero to be with even the best looking of men, they're pretty flexible of their standards in terms of casual sex...however for something more serious and long-term he might have a completely different view of what is an acceptable weight for him, especially as "marriage material"...your weight unfortunately can keep a guy from taking you serious on that level, although you may be satisfactory for everything below that. And let's all be realistic, not everyone can date the exact preference that they have in terms of body-type or attraction for that matter. You get what you can get, it's not create-a-ideal-partner day, where you can choose anything you like...it's about compromises and what's more important to you. For example it would do no me good to have a woman who had a body of a goddess but had a very low sex-drive, or I thought her body was delicious but didn't feel like kissing her face. I would take someone who was flat-chested and skinny who was right for me in every other way, then someone who was my ideal curvy-ish body type preference who otherwise did nothing for me. With that being said, realistically speaking if she was too heavy that would be a turn-off for me, because health is important to me and if someone is really out of shape in their 30's my expectation is that they will likely remain that way their entire life, and that's not the kind of lifestyle or family life that I want...I want to have a family one day but I want it to be into athletics and do outside activities together. I don't want the typical American family that eats a bucket load of grease every day and vegges out all day packing on the pounds getting diabetes and heart problems. So for myself, weight is important because it says something about lifestyle and self-discipline, and equally important which is health.
ascendotum Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 No my waistline looks like neither of those more in the middle when I sit maybe like the first but only my lower stomach though. The waistline in this photo is the same as how my waistline looks https://fbcdn-photos-b-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xpa1/v/t1.0-0/10526090_1391922097765737_9095826557472270640_n.jpg?oh=40c0e6f2055e308e129ff5f6eb430248&oe=54DEA534&__gda__=1423550814_e5ca894ad7cf5b46b089891ff55832a1 This is your waistline and you are wondering why you get male attentions.!! Its fine. Hip to waist ratio as someone else mentioned, and you don't want a high number. You're not close to being like the first pic. The woman in that first pic will have a harder time finding guys where rolls are a turn on. A slight bulge when slouching is no big deal for most guys. For some body nazis it will be.
Tayken Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Meghan Trainor...can't stand that pap, along with taylor swift. How many times can one girl sing about breaking up with a guy? She should go back to country music. @OP....belly fat aka muffin top is definitely NOT a turn on
RosieDunne Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 turn off. You'll only attract males that are on your league, aka, guys that are happy to get ANYTHING. Please try to lose that weight. Guys like slim women. It's fact. Agreeing with endlessabyss, I too have read your posts and I don't think you're a troll, but I do think you're an incredibly unpleasant person. Who the hell do you think you are to tell someone to lose weight. And fact, as if. You clearly have only met males as shallow as yourself. Stop making everyone feel like ****. OP, this is in no way correct at all, in fact I once had a previous boyfriend who found skinny women a MASSIVE turn off, he actually found them incredibly unattractive and he'd even sometimes encourage me to get a bit of extra weight because curves are attractive. (And he was himself very attractive and skinny, but he just didn't like skinny girls.) In general, quite a lot of men like curves and everyone has a different type, there's definitely guys out there who only prefer larger women as well. Either way, you don't have to try and change yourself to impress guys, if your figure is really that important to them they can't be that great of a person... and probably belong with someone as conceited as themselves. So in answer to your question, I don't think it is a turn off, and sounds like guys have been appreciating your figure so that can only be good! 1
irc333 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 yummmmm...belly fat You can motorboat both places. To be honest, I do like the slight extra weight that gives women their curves.
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