beautifulinside2 Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 This morning after love making, I told my boyfriend of 2 months that I was going to my ex boyfriends house today after work to pick up a suit I left at his house almost a year ago. I told him my ex tried to contact me over the summer but his number was blocked on my cellphone. His response was: Why did you tell me that? I told him because I don't have anything to hide, and he said no problem I trust you. Now I am wondering if I should have bothered to tell him. Was it necessary? I know his ex-wife cheated on him and he has insecurities about that so maybe I should have kept it to myself.
d0nnivain Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 You told him for exactly the reason that you said: transparency. His experience is negative so he is having difficulty processing the fact that you are forthright. Your timing also wasn't so good. After reading boards like these shortly after I got married, I told my husband that some guy had flirted with me. DH paused then asked if I needed him to go beat the guy up. I said of course not but I had been reading that out of respect for you & our marriage I was "supposed to" disclose these things. he thought that was ridiculous. He assured me that he knew I get flirted with & I flirt back & it was all OK but that he didn't need to be informed unless some guy crossed a line & I needed help putting him back in his place. Again, based on advice here, I would make a point to tell DH if I bumped into an EX. I have two that work in my industry who I see once a year or so. DH thanked me for telling him but again said unless there was a problem he didn't need to know because he trusts me. Be extra sweet to your guy but don't try to talk this to death because it will have the wrong effect on him. 1
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