irc333 Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 I had browsed further geographically more so lately to a neighboring major metropolitan area. Saw a few women on here , mid 50's...surprisingly better than most 50-somethings where I live. (Guess that's the backwoods for ya, lol) I guess due to good genes or "something in the water" it seems some women can pull off looking youthful even into their mid 50's and suprsingly so. USUALLY a lot of these women wind up having an age range preference more closer to their age. One I saw that she was 53, but dating preference was 40 to 47 (younger than HER?) Or some tend to slant towards the younger side, saw this one woman, will date from ages 35 and 56...she's 54. I'm getting the feeling of people feel they can pull it off, they will tend to date younger? Though, I've known women this very same age to view such men as "kids" to them. Any idea? I think some if they are active enough are finding men THEIR age quite larthargic as of late and inactive? That's a complaint I heard from several older women in MEetup
MidwestUSA Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 Men do the same thing, it's not limited to women. Just because someone wants something, doesn't mean they'll get it. I kept my range about five years on either side of mine. I still got a lot of guys who wouldn't respect my upper limit, so yea, proves my point about men doing it. Having said that, I did snag a younger one, ROAR, just not via OLD. 8
insert_name Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 On a related note I've got to say, I'm amazed at the opposite: how old most women look in their early 30s on OLD. There are some hard lives thst have been lived by the looks of things.
Author irc333 Posted November 14, 2014 Author Posted November 14, 2014 Yeah usually they've smoked an onslaught of cigs in their teen years, drank booze, get knocked up by their high school on and off boyfriend. ...you know. ..Jerry Springer material. On a related note I've got to say, I'm amazed at the opposite: how old most women look in their early 30s on OLD. There are some hard lives thst have been lived by the looks of things. 1
scatterd Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 My husband is eight years younger then I. I was 31 when we met he seemed at the time more mature then the men my age we really hit it off. I am 53 now and have been told I look younger then him. We are divorcing and I think if I date I am going to stick to men closer to my age. I went through a tough time with my health and it would have been nice to have been with a man that may have understood.Whats funny is right after he asked for divorce I found a doctor that can help me. I think no matter how good a gene may look it sure can change when when something happens inside you don't expect. If I date again I going to date men closer to my age. Age can matter.
GemmaUK Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 On a related note I've got to say, I'm amazed at the opposite: how old most men look in their early 40s on OLD. There are some hard lives thst have been lived by the looks of things. 4
NJ123 Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 On a related note I've got to say, I'm amazed at the opposite: how old most men look in their early 40s on OLD. There are some hard lives thst have been lived by the looks of things. I still have 11 years before I'm 40, and I could still pass for being 20-21 years old. I just hope I don't age bad in the next decade lol. I rarely drink & don't smoke though so I hope that helps keep me looking young.
FitChick Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 I've got to say, I'm amazed at the opposite: how old most men look in their early 40s on OLD. That's because they aren't in their early forties. 3
SJC2008 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 On a related note I've got to say, I'm amazed at the opposite: how old most men look in their early 40s on OLD. There are some hard lives thst have been lived by the looks of things. Mabye on "OLD" but 'IRL" men age better than women.
SJC2008 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 (edited) Any idea? Yes the idea is that it's OLD, the lad of unrealistic standards. Only online do the norms get flipped. Edited November 17, 2014 by SJC2008 1
Mysterio Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Age is strange. To me as long as we don't look like mother and son or give that vibe off. Thats all I care. I would say currently. Women I find attractive is 27 to 67 or so. These women take care of themselves and make themselves attractive to the opposite sex at all times. They are fit and take pride in their appearance and its not like they have to do much. Dye the hair and where updated clothes.
insert_name Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 On a related note I've got to say, I'm amazed at the opposite: how old most men look in their early 40s on OLD. There are some hard lives thst have been lived by the looks of things. What is it they say about imitation being the sincerest form of flattery...
insert_name Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I still have 11 years before I'm 40, and I could still pass for being 20-21 years old. I just hope I don't age bad in the next decade lol. I rarely drink & don't smoke though so I hope that helps keep me looking young. Take it from me, as a 34 yea old who looks 24 when clean shaven, its not an attractive quality in a man, at least on OLD.
Author irc333 Posted November 18, 2014 Author Posted November 18, 2014 Good genes helps as well. It rather jaw dropping to see a 55+ Barbie in my area that recently moved into a well known retirement community. You could hardly recognize her among the Q-Tips of the elderly community. Probably because she kept her platinum blonde hair much longer. Nice legs to. Age is strange. To me as long as we don't look like mother and son or give that vibe off. Thats all I care. I would say currently. Women I find attractive is 27 to 67 or so. These women take care of themselves and make themselves attractive to the opposite sex at all times. They are fit and take pride in their appearance and its not like they have to do much. Dye the hair and where updated clothes.
FitChick Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Good genes helps as well. It rather jaw dropping to see a 55+ Barbie Or 70+ like her or her. 1
NJ123 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Take it from me, as a 34 yea old who looks 24 when clean shaven, its not an attractive quality in a man, at least on OLD. Yeah, some say it's not attractive while others think it is. 90% of the time when a girl finds me attractive they always use the words "you're cute" or "you're a cutie", I guess due to my young looks. Sometimes I'd get a "you're handsome". But I'm questioning it myself whether it's a good thing or not to look quite a bit younger than my age. With a beard I look like I'm 22-25, but without I could probably pass for being 20-21.
Allumere Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Not in all cases but in many when you see a 50+ woman who looks much younger genetics has nothing to do with it. That isn't to say many aren't beautiful or look good...I am commenting specifically on the age part of the statement. Looking good for their age does often require more than genetics..health, habits, happiness, no sun...certainly more than hair dye and hip clothing. Reality for women (most) is gravity will take a toll...to keep that trim figure means you may look older in the face (we lose fat in our faces as we age..and the structure falls) and genetics may guarantee those jowls form no matter what. Of course some women are blessed with thick skin or dark skin and full round faces...they will just age well if they avoid that sun and have no major health issues.
insert_name Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Yeah, some say it's not attractive while others think it is. 90% of the time when a girl finds me attractive they always use the words "you're cute" or "you're a cutie", I guess due to my young looks. Sometimes I'd get a "you're handsome". But I'm questioning it myself whether it's a good thing or not to look quite a bit younger than my age. With a beard I look like I'm 22-25, but without I could probably pass for being 20-21. I think its attractive in the sense that a girl would think you are hot to look at, but the same girl would not want to date you or have sex with you. I think women can compartmentalise their attraction better than men in that sense. I dont think there is a woman I find hot that I wouldnt actually want to sleep with. There is that study though that found that women are more attracted to baby faced looking guys apart from when they are ovulating, so I guess there is some hope but I have to say that I hear women online saying they find baby faced guys attractive but rarely see it play out IRL.
elaine567 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I am seeing a very superficial take on dating here, it is all about the looks and how young the person is and how well they fit into "hot" stereotypes. No wonder there are a whole lot of folk on here moaning about cheaters and partners who do not care about them. What about intellect, a SOH, a caring personality, a good heart, do they not matter? 2
insert_name Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I am seeing a very superficial take on dating here, it is all about the looks and how young the person is and how well they fit into "hot" stereotypes. No wonder there are a whole lot of folk on here moaning about cheaters and partners who do not care about them. What about intellect, a SOH, a caring personality, a good heart, do they not matter? Problem is you can't have sex with a personality. Some will be able to make more concessions in this area than others depending on their options, but we are all looking for the most attractive person we can get (both men and women). I guess part of the problem is that the value we place on ourselves is reflected in the people we pursue. Nobody wants to pursue someone we perceive to be of lower value than ourselves and even the most fatalistic person regarding their own looks will usually have high standards in what they are looking for visually in a partner. So looks becomes the main way we filter out potential partners and we cross the bridge concerning personality etc when we come to it. My standards have been scaled down because of a lack of success at online dating, I'm now messaging women outside my usual upper age limit (and still not getting responses!) and not being as picky about looks....but as nice as some of the girls seem who arent 'the most attractive' I honestly would struggle to have any sort of physical relationship with them so its pointless to pursue. You just have to draw a line as to how far you are willing to compromise and accept singledom thereafter. I could be missing out on some great people and probably am but if the attraction is not there the personality is moot. Probably why so many guys complain of being friendzoned, their behaviour and personality makes them a great friend and the sort of person the girl wants to keep around because she likes the personality- problem is she cant have sex with his personality and has to look elsewhere to fulfill that need.
TigerLilly78 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 My aunt is in her 70s but still works a full work week and is active socially she also looks about 50 something (a normal thing for our family) matter of fact she just had a 55 year old hitting on her and when he found out her age he was shocked. She said would have dated him cause shes still mentally and looks wise on par with a younger man. On the flip side she also recently went out on a date with a man her age who she just wasn't a good match with as he acted like a old man. So I think in this way and more so as you get older age is really just a number long as your young at heart..
preraph Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I am seeing a very superficial take on dating here, it is all about the looks and how young the person is and how well they fit into "hot" stereotypes. No wonder there are a whole lot of folk on here moaning about cheaters and partners who do not care about them. What about intellect, a SOH, a caring personality, a good heart, do they not matter? So sounds like I should be having sex with my best girlfriend instead of even looking at men....she has all those traits and is far less likely to cheat, plus no beard or hairy back. Only trouble is, neither of us want to. So what you're proposing is to have sex anyway with a guy you're not attracted to because he has all the qualities you'd admire in your girlfriend?
FitChick Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 My aunt is in her 70s but still works a full work week and is active socially... she just had a 55 year old hitting on her and when he found out her age he was shocked. She said would have dated him So clearly age wasn't just a number to him even though he found her attractive. She shouldn't have told him her real age.
thefooloftheyear Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 So clearly age wasn't just a number to him even though he found her attractive. She shouldn't have told him her real age. I hope you are kidding....Unfortunately, I dont think you are... TFY
NJ123 Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 I think its attractive in the sense that a girl would think you are hot to look at, but the same girl would not want to date you or have sex with you. I think women can compartmentalise their attraction better than men in that sense. I dont think there is a woman I find hot that I wouldnt actually want to sleep with. There is that study though that found that women are more attracted to baby faced looking guys apart from when they are ovulating, so I guess there is some hope but I have to say that I hear women online saying they find baby faced guys attractive but rarely see it play out IRL. Yeah, it varies by woman pretty much. I'm sure a lot of women that look at me think I'm probably like 21 or something. Everyone is always shocked when I tell them my age. Some women would probably think it's really "sexy" to be with a guy that looks younger than his age. I don't think I'd want to change a thing. Since I want to stay young looking when I'm older. When I'm 50, I want to look like I'm late 30s/early 40s.
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