lisajenks8 Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 I have this guy friend i have known for 5 years now (we met online and talked straight for like 2 years), and we both had crushes on each other at the beginning that we both admitted, but we never met, a relationship never developed and nothing ever happened between us and we lost touch. We got in touch again recently, and he was flirting with me via text, being suggestive, and he told me he wanted me and we have always had a connection. I took it he meant he wanted me in every way. Anyway, i told him my feelings about him, and he just basically said he liked our friendship too much and that was one of a few reasons he couldn't see us ending up together, but he is sexually attracted to me. To be honest i found the whole too good a friend thing a lame excuse and an easy way to let me down, but he does know i have no intentions of just meeting up for sex, but he says he still wants to hang out with me as friends. I asked him when he was available and he said probably the beginning of the week, which has now passed. It has been over a week since he said this, and he hasn't contacted me. I have reached out many times only to be ignored. I am really upset by his behavior, and idk why he ever agreed to meeting if he had no reason to. He obviously has no problem ignoring me, so why lie about meeting with no intention to? Also, can anyone make sense of why he is ignoring me? I really care about him, and he hasn't removed me as a friend off facebook. I doubt this really means much, but i am trying to cling onto it having some meaning. He also hasn't been getting on fb as much lately, and his character just seems different. It is like a different person. Can anyone make sense of what is going on? I guess he won't be contacting me? Now i feel like he just finds me annoying and clingy. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Sorry you're in this position, OP. I think he's ignoring you because he doesn't want to lead you on and doesn't know how to deal with your feelings. Unfortunately, while he's physically attracted to you, he doesn't share the deeper feelings you have for him. I'm guessing his intentions in meeting up were more of sexual nature, but when he understood you have developed a stronger attraction to him, he backed off. I wouldn't contact him again for a while. I don't think he necessarily wants to end the friendship, but he clearly wants some space for the time being. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Sorry you're in this position, OP. I think he's ignoring you because he doesn't want to lead you on and doesn't know how to deal with your feelings. Unfortunately, while he's physically attracted to you, he doesn't share the deeper feelings you have for him. I'm guessing his intentions in meeting up were more of sexual nature, but when he understood you have developed a stronger attraction to him, he backed off. I wouldn't contact him again for a while. I don't think he necessarily wants to end the friendship, but he clearly wants some space for the time being. It's funny how I'm so cynical. You response suggests that he is a nice guy that's backing off cuz he knows OP wont sleep with him. I was totally thinking that he is doing this to mess with her mind, to make her think of him more and more and chase after him and want him. Just because OP said that she made it clear she wont go for just sex doesn't mean that the guy would stop trying to get in her pants. I like your positive outlook on people ExpatInItaly...I really wish I was more like that But OP, my cynical opinion is still something to maybe consider also. One thing I don't get is though, you wrote that you asked him when he was available and that he told you 'early in the week' and that you never heard anything else - but if you asked him the question and he answered it, isn't it kind of on you to reply after that and suggest a time that would have worked for the both of you? Anyways, if I misunderstood the events, sorry, if you have tried to contact him a bunch of times and he ignored you - leave him alone. Don't chase. Link to post Share on other sites
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