The anger stage never came...

[Zard0z]

Maybe it was all the nice things she said about me when we broke up. Maybe its because I'm mature enough to understand that people change. Maybe it sbecause I know that she was mixed up emotionally at the time too. But I just cant stay mad at her.

 

Even when one of the reasons she cited for the breakup was my height (im pretty short, shes kinda tall), i just kinda laughed it off. She always complimented me on the other aspects of my physique. So it wasnt an issue with me.

 

Does it show that somethings wrong with me? That i don't get deeply offended by that kind of statement? Im not trying to look strong here. I was a crying mess for a few weeks. But, I still dont carry that anger.

[IfiKnewThen]

i relate. and im so in love, and i know i was wrong..so i cant get angry at him at all. i am praying i get angry about something. to get unstuck with this massive physical heart pain. i dont wan to go to a doctor...but i really think i may have had a mild heart attack. the pain and wight in my chest is that pain and theres -0- relief. i feel very weak too. and yet im too weary and tired to do anything. in fact im going to bed now.

 

yes..i wish i could get angry. it would probably heal and save me.

[cerridwen]

Well, you know they say anger is a secondary emotion, so perhaps you are just very good at ascribing the proper feelings to things.

 

In other words, you're bypassing the rage and getting to the root of things quicker.

I'd say that's a very positive trait.

 

Plus, it sounds like you have a solid sense of self (didnt let the "too short" comment get to you). Another good thing!

 

Do you want to be angry?

Do you feel you're maybe suppressing it?

[Zard0z]

Yeah, I kinda worry thst its suppression. But more that I worry that its viewed as supression (i.e. weakness) in the eyes of others. I really could care less.

 

OTOH, because i know it has its advantages, when necessary, I try to play it cool even when I feel like blowin up.

[i c e queen]

you are not alone.

 

i keep reminding myself of all the reasons why he isnt worth it and i got mad at MYSELF instead for giving him so many chances, which led to my heartbreak.

 

anger was never towards him. i tried pushing the blame to him mentally but deep inside i just know that:

 

1. people change and love is an emotion that goes away so he isnt at fault.

2. if he isnt willing to work things out, he has the right to leave.

 

ARGHS.

 

maybe...just maybe...we dont get angry because for us, love is stronger than anger.

[Zard0z]

you are not alone.

 

I keep reminding myself of all the reasons why he isnt worth it and i got mad at myself instead for giving him so many chances, which led to my heartbreak.

 

Anger was never towards him. I tried pushing the blame to him mentally but deep inside i just know that:

 

1. People change and love is an emotion that goes away so he isnt at fault.

2. If he isnt willing to work things out, he has the right to leave.

 

Arghs.

 

Maybe...just maybe...we dont get angry because for us, love is stronger than anger.

 

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[i c e queen]

한국 말을 할 수 있어요? 전 외국인데 지금 한국에서 살고 있어요ㅡ.

 

조금 만 해요. 한국에서 공부했었요.