luvflower Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 (this started in the marriage section. but this part belongs here since we're parting ways) ...so LS, it's at the point where we are splitting. we'll both be moving to our separate places this weekend. this though, is per my suggestion a while ago. after several instances of him blowing up at me for voicing my concerns, i felt that following through with splitting is a must. i'd been looking for a spot for a while and once he saw how serious i was he found a place as well. so, actually left about a month ago but he asked me to come back after a week so i did...regretfully... i knew there would be discord & "hell to pay" ... he's bitter and has never forgiven me for leaving him that week and says that i should've never left... i say i should've never gone back to him. he's been distant and keeps throwing in my face that we're moving to different places and that it's what "i" wanted. yes to avoid all the drama and taking one another for granted. we tried 2 sessions of counseling and he said he'd never go back. and he hasnt. so we've grown apart in some ways and in some ways not.nevertheless, we are moving this weekend. i'm sad and content at the same time. does that make sense? he has a lot of pride and expresses his feelings every now and then when we start talking or he sees my sincere expressions. because of that i'm convinced that he is very bitter and even said last night that he's still angry because this is not how he invisioned us being. i suggested we move, yes! but he said if we move then we may as well break up. then he keeps going back and forth saying how he still wants to see me then he gets in his feelings and starts saying how we don't need to see one another. is there any ther effort i should put forth to make him see that just because we're moving to different apts doesn't mean i don't love him anymore?
surferchic Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Hey Luvflower. How long were you guys together before you realized his temper was an issue? And what would be the benefit in trying to work anything out with him? Just asking.
Author luvflower Posted November 19, 2014 Author Posted November 19, 2014 actually an incident happened within the first month and a half of us dating that made me think "something isn't right about this guy". so I feel a bit mad at myself for not pulling back from him back then. I would've avoided lots of drama...
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