shauny1983 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Hi guys im new on here but could realy use some advise. I have been seeing a girl for the last 5 years on and off (mostly off) , and this last year has been the year from hell, I was involved in a car accident in January and was in a comma for 2 weeks and in hospital for 10 weeks, and that is when it all started. I found out while I was in hospital she was sleeping with other men, I ended it but stupidly got back together with her and that's how its been for the last year. I find out she cheats we split for a few weeks then we get back together. I have recently just found out my own brother has been sleeping with her so we have split up again. its like every chance she gets to stab me in the back she will.I feel ashamed of myself because she sleeps with everyone then she starts messaging me telling me she loves me and that she wants a family and I fall for it every time.im from a small town and its very embarrassing I feel like everyone is laughing at me. I go no contact for a few weeks then I always end up taking her back, im at my wits end and feel like I am in a constant battle with myself....someone please help me?? . 1
Col1 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Go NO CONTACT again, this time don't slip. Post on LS a thousand times if you must instead of replying to her. No returning any of her messages. You will get through this. Surviving your accident is blessing. Live each day as a new gift. 2
Chatmonkey Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 (edited) I'm sorry to hear that my friend. Especially about your brother. Breaking up straight up sucks. There is nothing fun about it. But at the same time, you have learned and are going to learn so much from this sh*t experience. You will not make the same mistakes again in the future. You will handle it better if you break up again with a different girl in the future. You will mentally be a stronger person after having gone through this. Unfortunately there is no cure to how you are feeling right now. You just have to ride it out and the feelings will slowly dissipate. Which, is not what you wanted to hear. It's like a cross roads of not wanting to get over her or forget the memories and feelings associated with those memories, but also wanting to move on and the pain to end... That's the battle right now. If you truly want to feel better as soon as possible you will listen to Col. Otherwise, torture yourself for a bit more by talking to her etc etc but then eventually you will have to listen to Col. I'm sorry this has happened, but you will come out a much stronger person and believe it not in your next relationship or maybe even a few down the line, however long away that may be, you will be thankful for the lessons and strength you have gained from the bad experiences you have overcome. Because ultimately it is these experiences that allow you the knowledge of how to be happy in the future. Good luck to you and keep posting here. Edited November 15, 2014 by Chatmonkey
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