cms1992 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I'm a newbie here. I love to write as it helps me cope and I also enjoy getting outside opinions (as long as they are constructive and not just mean ). Anyway, my story is rather long, so I hope you can bear with me. I should first maybe explain my ex's situation. He was involved in a diving accident a little over two years ago which left him paralyzed from the chest down. He is a quadriplegic. I did not know him at the time of the accident. I met him about 11 months after he had the accident and we just clicked. None of that about him being wheelchair bound bothered me. I saw a person, not a chair. That all being said, it ultimately ended up causing problems in our relationship - problems that really cannot be controlled. Since his accident he had to move back in with his mom and dad. I spent most of our relationship at his parents' home. Became the daughter his mom and dad never had. We were all extremely close. The thing is, living with your mom and dad when you're 30 years old isn't quite ideal. It complicated things in our sex life, as if they weren't already complicated enough. There was just no privacy and nothing he or I could do about it. We broke it up in a heated fight. It was extremely impulsive, but also needed to happen. I had begun to resent him about a month before we broke it up because on top of not having much time alone with him, I was going through some very personal things with my health that had not yet been diagnosed. He broke up with me initially, but I have come to terms with the fact that it is for the best at this time. We broke up a month and a half ago and we just saw each other for the first time post break up a week ago. Everything felt nice and normal. It was almost as if nothing had happened. He paid for my drinks and bought my dinner. We shared a cigarette. Laughed. Kissed (a little), etc. Since then, we've talked every day, but recently he kind of started distancing himself again so I think it might be because he is scared we are jumping back into things. He will say he doesn't want to be in "constant communication" even though he enjoys talking to me. Along with the break up, I am finishing up an extremely stressful semester in college and have a lot on my plate. I have even more on my plate now than I did when we broke up as of this week and I told my ex I felt it would be best if I backed off until maybe Thanksgiving break or when I am home for Christmas. He told me whatever I needed was okay with him and that he would be sending positive thoughts my way. I guess I am just wanting some encouragement here. I have been getting opinions saying that breaking up is awful and if you break up you aren't meant to be, but I somehow don't believe that. Could it not be that he and I both have things to work on separately right now? Is that not acceptable? Everyone is different and not all love stories are the same... I just want to know that it's okay to think future reconciliation is possible as we have both talked about it and agree that maybe later would be better timing. Thanks! P.S. Please don't be rude.
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