gwennebe Posted March 16, 2005 Posted March 16, 2005 My boyfriend and I broke up last night. We'd only been together about two months so It's not a huge deal but it still hurts. We were having problems recently. we almost broke up two weeks ago becuase he felt he couldn't be in a relationship at this time due to the fact he is not sure what he is doing with his life right now. He claims he likes me and cares about me a lot and this is very hard for him and he is upset but doesn't want to lead me on into thinking he can give me more at this point in time. He went away for the weekend and he ended up hooking up with someone. He contemplated not telling me but said he couldn't hurt me like that. I'm going to start no contact. He wants me in his life he said and claims it upsets him to think I will be out of his life forever. He came over last night for awhile. He told me all this and broke up with me on the phone. Then he came over and we talked a little and I can tell it was hard on him. I am so hurt because I am the first girl he cheated on and feel like I did something or that I'm not worthy or good enough and I know he hurts that he did this to me. I always have such bad luck and the timing is always off for me. My mother and I talked last night and she feels he will regret it in a few weeks as do I but I don't know if I can trust him again. This sucks. I hate feeling pain like this. It's even harder for me because I am in a new area and don't have a huge group of friends. Thanks for listening everyone.
EC Posted March 16, 2005 Posted March 16, 2005 I'm so sorry. But I believe in no forgiving a cheater. (flame me if you want) He cheated on you. Yeah he will regret it in a couple weeks but do you think you were even running through his mind as he was getting it on with her?? Let that be a reminder for your no contact and let him go. I know its hard and I know your hurting..I think every woman has been through this or something similar and its very hard...but you know what you come out stronger. You say you don't know a lot of people in your area?? Get out, go out with the people you do know and meet new people. He broke up with you because he couldnt give you what you wanted and then went and slept with another girl...I feel as if he wants to keep you there for the future but he wants to play around now. Don't go through that. Be strong and do NC.
Illusion24 Posted March 16, 2005 Posted March 16, 2005 It wasn't hard on him when he went behind your back and hooked up???!!! You can't make someone love you or give you something that doesn't' come natural...I was in a 2 year relationship (if you want to call it that) and the whole time I was in love (lust) with him and he never gave me us the opportunity to make it work...He said I was the type of girl he could settle with but that he's not ready to give me what I wanted..He asked if I could wait, WAIT I waited 2 years already and so I moved on...It was hard even till this day I think about him but I also realize he would have been a hard person to love...I could see myself with him now even though he showed me a lot about life...But it wasn't enough for me You need to meet new people get out and you just might find someone... Of course he wants to keep you around just in case the other girl doesn't work out...he doesn't want to burn his bridges...but you do what you gotta do...Remember you are worth something don't let him get the best of you!!
Author gwennebe Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 Thanks for the strong advice. The girl was out of state, he went away to visit a friend. I even said the comment to him. "Wasn't I even in the back of your head?" He claims they didn't have sex. He wouldn't go into detail, he just said they hooked up. I know I shouldn't forgive him and I don't think I will. I just thought he was into me and I guess he wasn't or none of this would be happening. I feel used and deceived.
Author gwennebe Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 I AM SO ANGRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HE DOESN'T EVEN DESERVE MY FRIENDSHIP!!!!!
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