Broke up with my girl. Did I do right?

[youcanever]

Here is the detailed story.

 

We have been knowing each other for a month but we started dating 2nd of november. She is very cute, intelligent, funny and sexy girl. My friends give her 9/10.

 

Anyway, when we first met, we were saying goodbye to each other that night and her phone rang. She answered and I happened to see caller name. After 1-2 days, it took my attention that it was her ex-bf and she told me nothing about him. On facebook, I saw she liked his recent profile photos and he liked hers. She denied doing those but then I showed her and she has gone all red. This was the first red flag.

 

Then she told me she feels nothing towards him for months. Nothing emotionally or sexually but as I saw from ex's profile photos, they have very happy photos together from just a month ago. This was the second red flag.

 

Lastnight when I was at her place, after intimacy she was checking her texts and I saw a guy's name. And a lil very friendly texts. More than friendly. I asked her to open it. She opened it and I saw that a guy texts him like "how are you today darling?" "good morning baby" etc. I checked more past texts and I saw she wrote him "If you were here I'd feel more warm to you, you crazy guy".. And this was sent to him on 4th of november. 2 days after our first official date. This was the third red flag.

 

After all these arguements about her ex, she still don't want to delete her ex from facebook or delete his number. I asked why? She said, he will go crazy and call her all the time, want to meet her and hurt himself. I said, I don't care, ex should be an ex. He is 33 and she is 22. He is a grown man, he should handle himself. But she still didn't delete and took no action. This was the fourth red flag.

 

I like this girl a lot. Emotionally and sexually we are perfect. More than I imagined. But all these flags and that text msg I saw lastnight turn something off in my head and heart. Just like an off switch. I wanted to leave her flat because I wanted to be alone but she begged me to stay. She told me she loves me so much, she would do nothing to hurt me, she would do anything for this RL.

 

I got out and she started writing me messages, starting calling me all night but I ignored all of them and wrote her that I think I want to be alone and don't want a RL. Today, she wrote me a lot again asking if I am sure? If am I serious. I wrote, I deleted everything about you and took you out of my life. You should do the same. She asked, if I am serious with this decision because if she is gone, she is gone forever. I said, I like her but these little things annoyed me a lot and yes I am sure.

 

Than it is over. No msgs etc. I was like a zombie all day long, couldn't concentrate on my lessons. 2 nights ago I was so confused about her and I prayed for a sign about if I should go on with her or stop seeing her. And universe threw this text thing in front of me. I trust this kind of stuff.

 

I miss her damn much, I feel pain because I hurt her by breaking up but I also feel like this was the right decision. I am so much confused. I know she will never contact me ever again and I kind of feel so cold to a relationship with her. But I want her.

 

I just wanted to share my story and vent and also I'd like to ask your opinion about this situation and I'd appriciate any kind of comment.

[April Moon]

You did the right thing. There are more red flags than days that have passed.

[Strength in Healing]

High five my man. I am very impressed. You did excellent and absolutely made the correct decision and I hope you know that 100%. Perfect.

[Magnet]

I ignored my red flags early on my RS.

 

For example, I made nothing much of the fact that my ex texted her ex BF to come and pick her up when she was leaving my flat and that she told him I was gay. The sucker believed her.

 

2.5 years I was still ignoring red flags. I assumed I could trust her as much as I trusted myself.

Wham bam I'm dumped, she is with a new man (how new I don't know...!!), and picking up the pieces and loving someone that I want to hate.

 

Red flags early are IMPORTANT.

You did great kid, well done and don't turn back.

[SoThatHappened]

Absolutely 100% did the right thing. Good job.

 

It may sting a little now, but just imagine how much it would have hurt, months down the road, when you got cheated on by this girl.

 

You just saved yourself some real heartache.

 

Next.

[DenverDude]

The mere fact that you are checking her texts, or even asking her to show you HER texts should be the only red flag you need to worry about. You said you started dating her Nov 2? As in less than two weeks ago??!?!