the_entertainer1 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 The more I date and read, the more it appears that it's the men who are bigger game players than women. (That's not meant to be a sexist comment - that's just how I've observed things.) I've never been a game-player. And I've never really had much long-term success with men either. Is there a correlation there? Maybe. There's this guy who has been playing games with me for a while (extreme "hot and cold" behaviour) We're kind of enjoying the flirtation, I suppose. However, I always feel like he has the upper hand. So, do you guys have any advice for me about how I can up my 'game' a little? I think it's time for me to take a different approach! 1
PegNosePete Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Why would you want to play that kind of game, especially with someone who is better at it than you? He will win. You will lose. "The only winning move is not to play" 2
Tik Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Maybe it is more down to a lack of interest because lets face it, if we fell head over heels for someone without a doubt, we'd do nothing to risk the chances of us screwing things up. Therefore it may be more of us making sure we have our standards in place and knowing the type of person we want to meet rather than going out with every Tom, Mary or Harry that we bump into. I don't play games. Bearing in mind I'm pretty busy but I will always get back to a female and the time to which I get back to her will be based upon what I am up to at the moment (hobbies, work) taking into consideration how much I like her.
Redhead14 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 The more I date and read, the more it appears that it's the men who are bigger game players than women. (That's not meant to be a sexist comment - that's just how I've observed things.) I've never been a game-player. And I've never really had much long-term success with men either. Is there a correlation there? Maybe. There's this guy who has been playing games with me for a while (extreme "hot and cold" behaviour) We're kind of enjoying the flirtation, I suppose. However, I always feel like he has the upper hand. So, do you guys have any advice for me about how I can up my 'game' a little? I think it's time for me to take a different approach! If you don't like games, you don't "up your game". If someone is playing games with you, you move on. Simple. Upping your game, really means, playing the games or trying to outgame someone. Just be yourself, watch for things that don't work for you from a guy, and move on sooner than later. Follow you gut for a little while if there are some little mixed messages until it's clear one way or the other. If it doesn't become clear one way or another fairly quickly, move on.
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