lakerman34 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 (edited) So, my post-breakup has been bad. Very ugly post-breakup, relationship was very short (about 2.5 months), but INCREDIBLY intense, ex accused me of some things (she's bipolar), we completely avoid each other and cold shoulder each other for 10 months (actually, she doing it to me. After a month, I reached out trying to act friendly, I essentially got told off). We work at the same company, but at different locations. I live next door to her, she forgets her work bag at work. Texts me practically begging me to bring it home to her (first time she has spoken to me in 10 weeks), even recognizing all the "nonsense that has happened lately." I tell her "I got you," even though I considered playing the "I didn't see a text" card and leaving it at the office. I return it to her, she extends her hand, says "you are my savior tonight," and I, surprised, ask, "a handshake? Really?" She says, "this means all is well." I don't want to overanalyze, won't be putting MUCH thought into this, just wanted to get it typed out and let other people analyze for me. I'm taking it with a grain of salt and will continue to do me/won't add her on FB, won't actively look to talk to her. Thoughts? Also, I think she's VERY casually dating a guy (first couple of "dates" she brought her friends, she only sees him MAYBE once a week for 2 or 3 hours -- don't even think there is a sexual relationship yet). Edited November 13, 2014 by lakerman34
mammasita Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I'm not sure what you're looking for here. She's bipolar.
rester Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Not much to analyze there. She forgot her bag, you were a gentleman and brought it to, just like any other coworker/neighbor would have. I think it's pretty clear the relationship you had with her is over. That wasn't some kind of sign she wants to get back together, if that's what you were thinking.
Author lakerman34 Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 Nothing like that, I just thought the all of a sudden friendliness was rather confusing.
johnson_j Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 It's easy for her to be friendly to you, helps relieve her guilt. Don't waste time with this woman man, you're better than that.
Author lakerman34 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Posted November 16, 2014 It's easy for her to be friendly to you, helps relieve her guilt. Don't waste time with this woman man, you're better than that. So her roommate told me that now she thinks that my ex is essentially over it, and Shea been having a rough time with the long hours so she decided it's just too hard to be angry all the time. My ex is trying to be nice. She tried having a small conversation with me, she tried being somewhat "normal," but it's still a little weird between us. I'll be friendly but am rather disinterested, I'm not cold but I'm not exactly warm towards her either. It's getting cold in NOLA, she mentioned the fact that she needed a space heater, I suggested ah3 researched beforehand. It's definitely a "better" place than where we have been, but at this point, everything that happens moving forward is really up to her, BUT if she moves to quickly into "friends" and I'm feeling uncomfortable, I back up quickly.
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