I'm breaking up with him or talking with him. .. I don't know.

[blue_jay_bird]

I care for him deeply and we have been dating for five months.

 

BUT

 

I feel like he does not care about me AT ALL.

 

I'v asked him about this and he says; "I care about you but I'm unsure". WTF does that mean.

 

Aside from that only verbal response. His actions have all turned into, lack of texting, lack of interest.

 

I feel like I should be getting so much more from him. This makes me feel extremely alone and unloved.

 

I want so much more.

 

Should I have this conversation with him and suggest a break up or suggest we work on it?

 

The reason I want to suggest we work on it is, the hope that he doesn't know his lack of actions makes me feel this way. Plus if he even feels anything it won't blind side him.

 

AND

 

The reason I want to suggest ending the conversation in "we should break up" is because; he won't change. If someone is not into you they aren't into you. AND the last time I brought it up he just becomes more distant.

 

 

I feel like ****, I care like him, but this relationship is going NO WHERE.

 

Should I have this conversation with him and suggest a break up or suggest we work on it?

[KatZee]

I feel like ****, I care like him, but this relationship is going NO WHERE.

 

Should I have this conversation with him and suggest a break up or suggest we work on it?

 

You've already had this conversation with him. Why waste more breath?

 

Suggest a break up? No. You INSTILL the break up and you walk.

 

Suggest we work on it? The only person you can control is yourself. If YOU want to work on it, that's fine. But it's obvious he doesn't want to work on anything, as he's so "unsure" about you. You can't work on a relationship by yourself.

 

You already stated that this relationship is going no where, so what exactly would you be "working on"? People either have feelings for their partner, or they don't. You can't "work on" having feelings.

[IfiKnewThen]

i would not break up with him. read this. men are from mars ..women are from venus. maybe it will help.

[blue_jay_bird]

I don't know he hasn't responded to my text's messages in two days. I don't think a book can fix that.

 

I f u c k i n g love him. Hence me sticking around. But really. It's like dating a ghost.

[Seraque]

Blue jay, I was in your situation - I was so into him, he was meh. I kept holding out and hoping he's turning around! But he never did, only did enough to string me along. Give him the boot!! If he realized he was wrong he will come back. If he didn't like you enough you will have done yourself a service.

 

Trust me I've been there. You seem to have more clarity than I did.

[blue_jay_bird]

The last thing I want to do is break up with him in the wrong way. (Cause I love him)

 

 

Iv texted him that "i'm unhappy that he says he's unsure about me."

 

This is the second time I'v pushed for "how do you feel?" and its been "I like you but Im unsure."

 

I DONT WANT TO SURPRISE HIM

 

Do you think he will be? I mean if you get a text that says "i'm unhappy that he says he's unsure about me." you can't be surprised with what is coming.

 

If my boyfriend text me that, I would be like. "Where are you we are talking in person now." He's pulled a disappearing act. Gah

[blue_jay_bird]

I get the response.

 

It's not really about you. YOur awesome and have such a good personality. These last few months with u have been so nice they just flew by.

 

It looks like it's just me . I don't know what I'm doing with myself anymore.

 

Sorry I was having a bday dinner for my mom.

 

 

Yeah all this make is feel and think maybe he really cares.

 

BUT why do I have to wait till I feel so ****ty I have to text him and force him to show some love.