mr.blond Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Doode, after 6 years and a break up out of no where, I cannot stop social media stalking my ex. Its been almost a month and a half. I guess its better than texting or calling her.
jackinthebox1 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Do you enjoy pain? ****s sake man, man up and stop it
Author mr.blond Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 naw, this is the worst pain. Im suffering like I never have before
DenverDude Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I tend to disagree. Words and texts are one thing, but actually seeing pictures of them and seeing what they are up to is a whole other ball game. I would highly suggest you stop stalking her page. It's not healthy and it is hindering your healing process. I can read a million texts of my ex telling me that she no longer is in love with me and that I have no hope of reconciliation, but the moment I see her face (online or in person) I melt. You have to stop bro
jackinthebox1 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 You are inflicting pain on yourself and then moaning about the pain. If you want advice on this forum you have to listen to what people tell you. If you ignore everything and then wonder why you are suffering it makes it completely pointless and will stop people wanting to help you
LisaSmith_1970 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Yeah, stop with the facebook stalking, its not helping you out in any way. Its very tempting to check their facebook page because I've done it, but for me the only way I can move on is if I meet someone else.
KatZee Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 naw, this is the worst pain. Im suffering like I never have before You're only doing it to yourself. Delete/Block. Hide mutual friends. And if you absolutely can't control yourself, delete Facebook. It's the biggest soul suck/waste of time. 1
Author mr.blond Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 Yeah, stop with the facebook stalking, its not helping you out in any way. Its very tempting to check their facebook page because I've done it, but for me the only way I can move on is if I meet someone else. ya. feels like the only way to move on is to meet some one better too. Only problem is she is the best human being Iv ever known. And im not exaggerating.
Author mr.blond Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 Please stop now. Just stop. stop what?
tikay00 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 ya. feels like the only way to move on is to meet some one better too. Only problem is she is the best human being Iv ever known. And im not exaggerating. Did she cure cancer, or did she make you feel really really special?
AaronSG Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 And if you absolutely can't control yourself, delete Facebook. It's the biggest soul suck/waste of time. Great advice, I think in this situation it might be the best advice to follow! Delete the f**king thing all together and be done with it! It's been over 10 weeks since I deleted my account, it's gone, no way to get it back what so ever, do I miss it, nope! I to was very much like you, suffering, in pain, always tempted, always giving in, always peeking....................if you delete your account you won't have to worry any more about such thing, and more than likely won't have anything to piss and moan about! Just stay away from the damn thing, suspend your account, delete you account, what ever it takes to make yourself do it, and do it soon, the longer this goes, the slower your healing process. Good luck.....
irresolute Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 stop what? what do you think you have to stop doing, huh? Global warming, the war...what? 2
irresolute Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Great advice, I think in this situation it might be the best advice to follow! Delete the f**king thing all together and be done with it! It's been over 10 weeks since I deleted my account, it's gone, no way to get it back what so ever, do I miss it, nope! I to was very much like you, suffering, in pain, always tempted, always giving in, always peeking....................if you delete your account you won't have to worry any more about such thing, and more than likely won't have anything to piss and moan about! Just stay away from the damn thing, suspend your account, delete you account, what ever it takes to make yourself do it, and do it soon, the longer this goes, the slower your healing process. Good luck..... Well, how about people who really connect with other other people than the ex through Facebook? Deleting your account won't make you stop stalking her. You can block and continue with your life as it was before, but deleting your account just because of one person? I think it's ridiculous.
i c e queen Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 the best human being will not leave you in pain. if deleting / blocking is too harsh, you can continue with the stalking. over time, you will get tired of it and stop. i wasnt determined and did stalking too but it reduces every single day because the fact that he doesnt even care as much sinks in gradually. if more pain can slap you awake, do it. you need more time, sending hugs over!
irresolute Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 the best human being will not leave you in pain. if deleting / blocking is too harsh, you can continue with the stalking. over time, you will get tired of it and stop. i wasnt determined and did stalking too but it reduces every single day because the fact that he doesnt even care as much sinks in gradually. if more pain can slap you awake, do it. you need more time, sending hugs over! No, he won't get tired of stalking, where did you read this? On the contrary, stalking will lead to eventually want to contact the ex. 1
Author mr.blond Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 what do you think you have to stop doing, huh? Global warming, the war...what? do you come here to be cantankerous?
irresolute Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 do you come here to be cantankerous? No, I'm sorry, but it's clear that you have to stop stalking her.
AaronSG Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Well, how about people who really connect with other other people than the ex through Facebook? Deleting your account won't make you stop stalking her. You can block and continue with your life as it was before, but deleting your account just because of one person? I think it's ridiculous. If this was directed towards me, in regards to the other people I might connect with via Facebook, those that are the most important to me were briefed before I implemented the deletion of my Facebook account. Those people now connect with me through the phone or text or e-mail, Facebook is no longer required to keep my friends & family up to date with the happenings of my life. As far as possibly stalking her after my Facebook account got deleted, not once, not ever. You'd have to ready up on my breakup story to see that me keeping tabs on her, even through media stalking or whatever, would be giving her to much of my attention, to much of my time, to much of my energy, plus.......to be honest, why check up on someone who doesn't want to be with me, they don;t want to be apart of my life, why should I check and see how their life is going. As far as the deletion of Facebook account as being "ridiculous", I guess it just boils down "to each their own", it works for me, and it continues to work! 2
Author mr.blond Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 theres been this destructive storm in my mind for over a month since this break up. Iv always been a happy strong willed guy and I just dont see the light at the end of this. Im not my self amd everyone I know can see it. She was the one and now shes gone
tikay00 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 No, he won't get tired of stalking, where did you read this? On the contrary, stalking will lead to eventually want to contact the ex. So much this. Sooner or later you'll see a "sign" that they're miserable and want you to call them so bad...........and then you start back at square numero uno. And even worse, you might see a pic of them and a their new boo. Exactly why you stay away from their page.
tikay00 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 theres been this destructive storm in my mind for over a month since this break up. Iv always been a happy strong willed guy and I just dont see the light at the end of this. Im not my self amd everyone I know can see it. She was the one and now shes gone Rub one out, and see if that same feeling is there. Not even joking.
Shockwave Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I think we all know what you're feeling and dealing with. I did the same thing by looking at my ex's FB every week or so for several months. Eventually you're going to see, like those of us who have done this something you don't want to and wish you hadn't seen. At that point it's too late. What you see will cause you a great deal of pain and suffering. This is the path you're on. You have to come to realize and accept that you're more important than she is. How is learning this new info about her helpful to you? It's not. So you must give yourself a break and love yourself. Know and internalize that all you're doing is torturing yourself by continuing the stalking. You may as well hit yourself with a bat. My sincere advice is, if you're strong enough, just stop looking right now. I did as well as a lot of other people here. Sure you'll be curious from time to time but stop yourself from thinking; if I check just one more time I'm going to see some special message from him or her and everything is going to be moonbeams and rainbows again. Instead ask yourself, what good will this do me? The very real possibility is it'll cause you more searing pain. How is that, in any way, good for you? 1
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