Swimmer916 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I met a girl about two weeks ago and we had an awesome first date. We've been talking a lot and it was refreshing to find someone who I could get a long with and laugh with. Lot of common interests helped as well. We've been texting a lot and last night she went silent last night for a little. We planned for a second date today but she said she was sick. Total bummer but things happen. I figured it was getting blown off so I said "Sorry to hear that and feel better, hope we can reschedule and hang again soon". She replied with "For Sure! My co-worker had it the other day and since its a 24 hour bug it wont be too long." I figured I'd leave it at that, just figuring she wasn't really interested anymore. She has been texting me throughout the day still though. My question is, is she still really interested? I mean I'd figured it would be silence from here out. If she really was I figured she would be the one to ask to reschedule. Sorry for the questions. I'm new to the whole dating scene since I just got out of a 4 year relationship. thanks!
losangelena Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Well, it's hard to say, since you don't know her all that well and you've only gone on one date. I know that if I had to cancel a date due to sickness or any other reason, I'd offer an alternate time. She may not want to though, since she's not sure how long she'll be sick. It's too early to tell either way. The fact that she's messaging you is a good sign. She may be waiting for you to ask again (the whole "the man pursues" thing). I'd say, see how she's feeling in a couple of days and ask again, if you're still interested. Sure, maybe it "shouldn't" be that way, but again you have no idea what's going on in her mind, because you hardly know her. There's nothing definitive to be gleaned by her behavior. If you're interested, try again.
Fondue Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Next time, let her be the one who offer a reschedule. If she cancelled, it is her duty to make a counter offer. If she doesn't, she isn't really interested. A lot of women will keep you on their phone and text because... They like the attention. Date or no date. 1
Assasda Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Next time, let her be the one who offer a reschedule. If she cancelled, it is her duty to make a counter offer. If she doesn't, she isn't really interested. A lot of women will keep you on their phone and text because... They like the attention. Date or no date. This. She's the one that canceled, so she's the one that should shchedule another date. You seem needy for her affection if you keep asking her after you cancelled. Also, if she's not willing to see you, Go out with other women
Diezel Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Funny thing is SHE labeled it a 24 hour bug. So technically, she should be fine by this weekend. #1 Cut down on the texting. You are killing attraction. #2 She probably went silent last night because she was on a date, or out with friends, or just living life... you should be too. #3 If you don't think you aren't emotionally invested, go ahead, ask her one more time but NOT for either Friday or Saturday. #4 If she thinks it's a 24 hour bug, there's no reason why she shouldn't have offered up an alternate date at least 3 days from tonight. I'd call this fading interest. Stop making it fade harder by texting her "a lot". 1
deathandtaxes Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 It's really hard to say if she's losing interest. You can wait for a counteroffer. Or you can wait a day or two and point-blank ask her for another date. Be specific - date, time, locale. No other texts. Her response will be your guide. 2
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