Lernaean_Hydra Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 So, sometime during the spring (April-ish) two young guys (Chris and Kevin) moved into my apartment complex. I was spending most of the spring and summer months at my mom's house so I had no idea. Back in late August or so I ran into one of the guys (Chris) at the mail boxes. He said he was excited to finally meet "the new neighbor" and I told him I'd actually lived there for years. We laughed and have been friendly ever since. Both guys are young, one is 23 the other is 25/26. One is a tattoo artist, the other is a musician. On top of this, they are - AFIK - the only two young bachelors in the complex. So, as you can imagine , they've generated a ton of interest and have their fair share of guests - both male and female. Now, as I said, they're pretty popular guys and they always have girls hanging around; plus, the single women in the building were not about to let this opportunity pass so they're around too. Kevin and I are friendly but not overly so but Chris has flirted with me a few times but not in earnest. We generally run into each other in the parking lot or at the mail boxes and a couple times he's come to my patio when I'm watering plants to chat. However, recently I've been running into some issues due to or "friendship" with some of the girls who hang around (generally the same five or six) them. One day, I was making my way toward the front gate carrying a large package and one of their girls (and also my neighbor) intentionally made it so the door closed in my face - and this is a heavy, iron door so it took some effort. Another time I was going out to my car when two girls were sitting on the the back stairs near, refusing to move so I could get by. Another time, Chris and I had been in the parking lot talking briefly before I pulled off, when I returned hours later a girl (one of the two on the stairs previously) accosted me in the lot asking me how I knew him. Her demeanor was so hostile I sort of just snapped "Uh, because I live here that's how," and kept walking. It's gotten to a point where I've kind of backed off from talking to him except for the occasional hi and bye because I want to avoid this drama. I don't want this guy or his roommate and he knows it but he also enjoys playful flirtation. He's noticed a bit of the distance and I've said I'm just always in a hurry now but he knows something's up and thinks he's done something to offend me. A part of me wants to say "Well I would talk to you more but your whores are getting out of line" and another part tells me to keep evading him yet another part tell me to just say f*k it, let them be mad. But then, these are girls with little sense and at the rate it's going, it'll only worsen. I'm not going to be getting into weekly catfights with girls who don't know any better. The bottom line is, how how do I handle this?
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Sorry I shouldn't laugh, but this is quite funny . I've seen it happen, over my own little brothers even! There isn't really a great deal that you can do to alleviate this. When a "pre-selected" guy enters this kind of environment, there will always be that handful of girls who completely lose their sh*t. Unfortunately, you may just have to put up with it unless you actually tell this guy "look, you're cool and all, but these girls are giving me sh*t just because I dare to talk to you". You don't have to be overly friendly with him anyway, he is just a neighbour, but they shouldn't stop you from doing so just because they want the cock. 2
CarrieT Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 The bottom line is, how how do I handle this? Become a duck and let it roll off your back. Seriously.... this is such a non-issue!
preraph Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Only you can decide what to do. You don't even know if either of these guys is worth it. Probably not since they're obviously playing a bunch of women in the same apartment complex. I've been in plenty of situations where I had to navigate these situations, but the difference is, I was clear that the guy was on my side and wanted me to prevail. I was "authorized." Once you are "authorized" and know the guy in question approves, you can plow through them like a speedboat leaving them dog paddling for shore. What you don't want to do is become one of them and compete for this guy who may be just a ridiculous player. Separate yourself from the herd by NOT competing for him. Let him come after you. Guys with too many girls buzzing around find it really refreshing to have to be the one to chase.
Author Lernaean_Hydra Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 Become a duck and let it roll off your back. Seriously.... this is such a non-issue! Typically I'd agree with you but you really have to understand the dynamics at play here. These are the kinds of girls who'd be more than willing to get physical towards girls they felt were encroaching upon their "territory".
Strength in Healing Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 What is this I don't even The human race is quite sad
Author Lernaean_Hydra Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 What you don't want to do is become one of them and compete for this guy who may be just a ridiculous player. Separate yourself from the herd by NOT competing for him. Let him come after you. Guys with too many girls buzzing around find it really refreshing to have to be the one to chase. Yeah, I'm already not competing for him. I have no interest there and he's aware of this. He's seen my "type" after I ran into him letting my date in the front entrance and commented it so there's no confusion there. He's not chasing me, I gather he thinks I'm just a cool neighbor chick. So, that being the case, I have zero interest in "getting into it" with some girls over a guy I do not want. 2
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