Satori Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Long history short: I'm madly in love with a girl on the other side of the world and only see her about once every 18 months. When our meeting ends I feel depressed for several months and can't feel anything else. Then when I finally get over her again I meet a new girl and make myself 'fall in love' with her. Problem is deep down I know I don't have great feelings for her, but just talking, texting and doing things with a girl lifts my mood. It lets me look forward to a possible happy romantic relationship. I do this for a while and move on again. This time however I asked her out for a date and she declined, but we're still friends and hangout together. I still enjoy the time we spent together, but I've got this empty depressing feeling again that there's no happy romantic future for me. My mood would lift just by seeing a notification from a message from her, but now it does nothing. I need to have some sort of hope, but now it's like my bluff has been called. Making myself like someone has been exposed as an empty stopgap to defer my depression. I also haven't told anyone about the girl on the other side I'm still in love with. I feel like I want to tell my new lady friend about her just so I have an intimate connection with someone and that would allow me to look forward to talking with her again. I don't know, I can't be the only person to do this. Maybe some of you have some advice or care to just respond. I don't know how to cope anymore, my one way of looking forwards to the future is gone.
Reels Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 It will be hard for now, but you will have to take care of yourself and try concentrating on those things that are actually going to benefit you.
IfiKnewThen Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 (edited) i get some of this. i had been talking to someone for 3 years like 1000 miles away from me. and i had him in my life everyday. it felt good to be loved and called and missed and we planned a future together. when that gone..its devastating. youre trying for replacement people. its like a bandaid on a wound. but what you really want is the first girl... or ex. but if its not going to work with the fist girl, you have to sever its ..so that you can actually commit to someone and not divide feelings. if it can work with the first girl...get more serious with her and ask if she will move ur way..or go move to her. you cant live without love and attention it seems..and i get that. it keeps you going makes u happy. it your drug. but sounds like ur juggling a web..of people . one person to help u with the other. or to fill in the blanks when the other is gone. what is preventing u from being with 1 girl? just ask yourself that 1st. and work on that premise. Edited November 15, 2014 by IfiKnewThen
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