Blakely Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Um, why do you disappear with no fair warning? Coming from a 27 yr old woman... the Houdini act is NOT cool to pull on somebody you're sleeping with. I've managed to pick decent guys in the past & avoided this situation until now. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't sting just a little bit. Either you got cold feet or I did something to turn you off. I get it. Regardless, I deserve an explanation. Don't be a wimp next time;) I reached out to him last, his replies were short, he seemed annoyed, so I took the hint & stopped texting him. Figured I'd let him contact me when he was in a better mood. That was almost a month ago!
mariekatie Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Um, why do you disappear with no fair warning? Coming from a 27 yr old woman... the Houdini act is NOT cool to pull on somebody you're sleeping with. I've managed to pick decent guys in the past & avoided this situation until now. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't sting just a little bit. Either you got cold feet or I did something to turn you off. I get it. Regardless, I deserve an explanation. Don't be a wimp next time;) I reached out to him last, his replies were short, he seemed annoyed, so I took the hint & stopped texting him. Figured I'd let him contact me when he was in a better mood. That was almost a month ago! I don't know but maybe he just wants to sleep with you but when it got "serious",they want out because they don't want to commit and they see that it's coming. It's rude and a loser way to escape. But well, most people are just a wimp, they are afraid to say the truth. There are many people out there that are selfish, the only thing you could do is to not be like them. And guys do not want a girl who is easy to get. Not saying you should play hard to get but wait till they are "committed" before sleeping. 1
StalwartMind Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Pretty much to echo what mariekatie said, it's unfortunately a far too common trait for many people to just discard other people as we so happily do with materialistic items these days. The even worse part is that you don't know how someone else is or behaves till you've spend significant time with them, and even then, they can do the very same. Bottom line is, a lot of people tend to simply not care about others these days like perhaps people from older generations used to do, that coupled with a more technological world, where a lot of people treat others on the internet like complete morons. 1
Redhead14 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Um, why do you disappear with no fair warning? Coming from a 27 yr old woman... the Houdini act is NOT cool to pull on somebody you're sleeping with. I've managed to pick decent guys in the past & avoided this situation until now. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't sting just a little bit. Either you got cold feet or I did something to turn you off. I get it. Regardless, I deserve an explanation. Don't be a wimp next time;) I reached out to him last, his replies were short, he seemed annoyed, so I took the hint & stopped texting him. Figured I'd let him contact me when he was in a better mood. That was almost a month ago! It is indeed an immature way to handle the situation, however, there is no mystery. This is what immature guys do. If you were sleeping with him without exclusivity/commitment, he likely feels that he didn't owe you an explanation. If there was exclusivity/commitment, take it for what it's worth . . . nothing to him apparently. And, frankly, would you really want to know? Do you want him to tell you, the sex was bad, I found a better woman, etc.? In the end, it's not you, it's him. He wasn't the guy for you. You dodged a bullet. Be happy for that. 1
ja123 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 It sucks, but try not to break your head over it. He's clearly really immature. Trust that someone better is ahead on your path. 1
carhill Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Um, why do you disappear with no fair warning? Welcome to LS. I don't (usually disappear with no fair warning) but, in general, IME people view other people as transitory and transactional. You and said man had a good time, had sex and he's on to the next day/week/month and other things and other people. I was never used as a sexual transaction that I know of but was used in such a manner emotionally dozens of times as a younger person before I finally figured out the prevailing views on such matters. Now I see people as interesting off-ramps in the journey of life. Some might have a few more stops off the freeway than others but it's back on the road again and they become memories, some good, some not so good. That's life! 2
Author Blakely Posted November 14, 2014 Author Posted November 14, 2014 And, frankly, would you really want to know? Do you want him to tell you, the sex was bad, I found a better woman, etc.? In the end, it's not you, it's him. He wasn't the guy for you. You dodged a bullet. Be happy for that. Absolutely Id really like to hear his explanation! I mean, I'm not in love with the man by any stretch of the imagination, but I did(do) have feelings for him:/ We both have demanding careers and he mentioned his concerns a few times before. This is why I usually never sleep with somebody unless we are basically BF/GF, and people expect us to show up @ places/events together. If it happens before that, seems to complicate everything. Felt like we were headed there---or maybe his sexiness got the best of me, and I put out knowing damn well it probably wasn't quite time to go there yet oO Can't really talk about the situation with my friends because they're all curious As to what's going on between us. Rumors already went around once, when we first started talking. So I'm not sharing any info which is probably why this boy is making my head spin! When they ask, I just tell them we've been in touch recently and leave it at that.
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