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[egor401]

My fiance and I broke up about a year ago or rather she cheated on me and left with him I should honestly say. It was a year ago and it was the worst pain I've ever felt. I slipped into serious depression and started drinking a whole lot. I lost interest in everything and all I did was wonder why.

 

little while ago got a message from her saying she was right and it was for my best interest she did what she did and shes in a relationship she always dreamed of. obviously this hurt. I'm honestly tired of thinking about it. I really love her but am still angry and have anger towards her for what she did to me and her lack of caring. At this point I simply feel nothing most days. I've really improved my life and made huge positive changes in it career wise and I know I'm doing great that way.

 

But emotionally I'm dead inside, I think about her and it sometimes hurts like this feeling of shes the only one which I know is crazy but can't explain why I feel that way. My friends all notice my attitude change of being more stern and frankly very resentful towards women. I have dated girls, slept with other girls which I regretted, even pushed away really awesome girls that I know were amazing. I don't know why I feel this way so disinterested in other women so disinterested in dating and just the feeling of nothing inside.

 

I don't know why she won't leave my thoughts even though I don't get upset by it anymore. I don't drink anymore or go crazy over it but I feel like I'm going through the motions with life like I'll never obtain that happiness level I did when I was with her, and I know I shouldn't feel that way that I deserve better. Hopefully this makes sense. Has anyone else felt this way?

 

Like no matter what you do nothing seems to change? Lost interest in dating because of one person you cared for the most?

Edited November 12, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Magnet]

I'm feeling like this too. Been 4 months since the 2nd break up, and 7 since the 1st.

 

Numb, tired, exhausted. Hopeless.

 

 

For me, it's a mixture of two things that I do to get through bad periods:

 

-I cry, I find ways to release, I stay alone, I pour my heart out, I grieve

 

Then when I'm sick of it,

 

-I fill my life with positive things, I reach out to friends, I look up inspiring stuff, I do new things, I learn new things, I make goals and take action

 

It's a learning process, I've never been here before, I'm learning as I go along.

Peace and love to you brother. Hope you find your way.

[Magnet]

And yes, I can't be bothered to date.

 

Focus on myself, my friends and my family and new experiences.

[d0nnivain]

You are still hurting. You aren't fully finished healing from the break up or grieving the loss of what you thought was going to be your marriage.

 

Before you go so far into hate / anger / resentment . . .whatever negative place you want to call it . . . try reminding yourself that not all women behalf like your cheating EX.

 

In time you should be able to open up again, but it may take time.

[Lernaean_Hydra]

Wow, well first of all, she's a bitch. What kind of person cheats on someone then months later messages them to basically say "Oh by the way, I'm glad I cheated and I'm in the best relationship ever!"?

 

She is, was and likely forever will be a selfish bitch and you need to reaeeaally understand that and let it sink in fully. Recognize and immerse yourself in that fact. Then remind yourself that you are here, pining after this kind of women and letting thoughts of her take over your life; ask yourself how rational this sounds.

 

She's out there having the time of her life with her new guy meanwhile you're pushing away decent women and jeopardizing your friendships with your bad attitude. You're giving her entirely too much power and it's not doing you any favors.

 

There is no quick way to get over these types of feelings instantly but you can stop looking at her and your relationship as some sort of high point in your life. If you genuinely feel you'll "never obtain that happiness" that you did when you were with A CHEATER you should really think over the implications there. Do you really mean to say you feel like you'll never find a love like the one you had with a woman who subsequently cheated on you!?

 

Trust me, not all women are like her and frankly, she was an example of the worst of them. Don't let her cloud your judgement or fill up anymore space in your head.