Can promiscuous people have healthy relationships?

[ThaWholigan]

Why do you believe being promiscuous assumes that it is inclusive of being in a relationship?

 

 

Concur with this.

 

Despite my high numbers, whenever I found myself within a relationship, I was ALWAYS monogamous. It is simply within those periods of being single that my promiscuous nature would come out.

 

I am oft-offended that people assume one's sexual natural cannot be confined within monogamy and there is an immediate assumption that a high-sexualized person must equate to cheating.

Admittedly it irks me too, and I'm not even promiscuous!

 

I guess my friend being in my life really fused my views on it.

[d0nnivain]

Not sure how a promiscuous person shows people they value intimacy. There is usually an emotional/physical disconnect or break that has occurred. I can understand that happening due to rape or abuse. I can't understand those who do it for fun.

 

Physical sex & emotional intimacy are vastly different things. The sex is easy. The emotions are tough. It took an awful lot for me to let my walls down & really let somebody into my life & my heart. My bed, well, that was a little easier when I was younger. Sex feels good & that was all I wanted. yeah some of it was validation . . . the nerdy HS brain morphs into a swan & becomes more desirable in college but the last thing I wanted was to be tied down to be in a "relationship" . . . the thought of forever made me want to run & I often did.

 

RedRobin: You seem to have struck a balance in your own head & have determined what works for you. That is a great thing & something more people should do for themselves. You also leave open the possibility that you could trust somebody who you otherwise viewed a promiscuous even if the bar is set high. That's an opinion I can respect because you are leaving open the possibility even if it's improbable.

[ScreaminEagle]

I respect everyone's opinion on this thread. RedRobin seems to know what she values in a partner. People value different components of a relationship when evaluating a potential partner.

 

 

Not everyone will have the same opinion on casual sex however I do not believe as I stated earlier in name calling, harshly labeling someone because they enjoy casual sex, it is simple, if it is not for you, then don't date that person.

 

 

I would like also touch upon a comment a poster made about it is easier for women to get sex, I kind of disagree about that, yes there are women out there that can bat an eyelash and boom they are in a hotel room, their are men out there that can easily manipulate someone's perceptions an emotions to get what they want, I have seen it happen.