CurvyGurl Posted March 16, 2005 Posted March 16, 2005 Ok. I am doing some wondering-slash-obessing-hyphen-wondering... I had a great date on Friday with a new dude. I was a good girl. Had a looooooooooong tight hug and kisses at the end, no deep kisses, mind you but kisses. He has told me twice that he had fun on Friday... But... no plans for another date were made. We've talked a few times on the phone since and he emails every morning when he gets to work. We talked tonight, and... no plans for another date. He works in outside sales so during the day he is outside, selling. His territory and quota just increased so he will be out in the field alot for the next couple of months, so a weekday lunch is sort of out right now. He's deeply entrenched in NCAA Basketball, he and his brother ordered a package and everything. I have some friends spending the weekend here in town so my weekend is semi full. The weekend after that is my birthday weekend-- I think my sister in law is coming to town, though. I guess I have no choice, but I don't know if I should just... wait... until things aren't so busy for us both... or... ???? I dunno. If it was a great date I can't imagine we wouldn't go out again. Perhaps I need to employ patience, but ...I am feeling a little bit of 'he's just not that into you' syndrome and I don't want to be the poor sucker who doesn't see it. Do YOU see it? Or should I just smack myself, tell myself to shut the h up and go to bed?
Bunni Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 If he likes you he WILL make time for you. I think that is exactly how you will know if he is "into you". I am pretty sure thats what is said in that exact book. I always believe that if someone likes you they will find a way to tell ya they do. Or show you Hope he's into you, if you want him to be
Mr Spock Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Poor CurvyGurl It's almost like you want to scream "HEY YOU, LISTEN, ARE WE GOING TO DATE OR WHAT CAUSE IF NOT I AM NOT WASTING ANY MORE TIME" it's complicated even more for you because of your specialness. If you could just go out and have casual (but safe, always safe) sex like the rest of the world eventually you'd find one you wanted to keep. Honestly, hugs at the end of a date doesn't sound promising. What kind of kiss? Let him ask you out on another date. You can mention that you did really have a good time on your first date but that's it.
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 Hmmm. You're right. I've been too busy with weekend plans to really think about it. With the games going on, day idea of dating is really shot to hell. We had a great time, I let him know I had a great time, he said he had a great time. The door is open. He can walk through it or just stand there. Whatever. Re the kiss. He was just getting over a cold so I didn't want any deep kisses. Just a few well meaning smacks on the lips. I controlled the kissing. He hugged me like I was going somewhere. He sort of seemed like he didn't want to leave. I dunno. Men are strange people. *snort*
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 Still no call. I know March Madness is a big deal but I expect if someone is interested that they make an effort. He did know I had a busy weekend--- wait, stop. STOP sTOP STOP STOPPPPPPPPPP. I am not making excuses for him. I'm just done. WTF evah.
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 I haven't called. Typically he emails everyday. No email since last Tuesday. No phone call since last Tuesday. Sent an email last night and haven't got a response yet. Maybe he's trapped under a heavy rock? ROFL! Nah. I am sure there is a good and healthy reason he hasn't called. It could be because he is busy or it could be because he is not interested, or it could be because he has been abducted by aliens. I dont understand pursuepursuepursuepursueSCREECHING HALT!!!!!!!! whaaaaaaaaaaaaevah.
alphamale Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Originally posted by CurvyGurl If it was a great date I can't imagine we wouldn't go out again. hate to rain on your parade CURVYGURL but I have been on many incredible first dates that never turned into a second date. most people have. most people are very good at hiding their real feelings so as not to hurt another. but then again I have been on some first dates that were average and I ended up dating them for a year. ya never know. a good first date is not a promise of more to come.
EC Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 lol girl your funny. Maybe he all of a sudden had to go to a place with no phones, or computers???? Ok I was going to suggest freak it you contact him but you already have yesterday and no reply....... So I say, wait a couple days at least to see if he will respond to the e-mail....if still time passes and nothing then forget it girl. Sometimes guys are weird. You went out, had a good time, he don't call you back then its his loss. That really does suck though..Ugh..guys are dumb.
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 22, 2005 Author Posted March 22, 2005 He called tonight, he never got my email, just hasn't had time to check it. Curvygurl can't wait till March Madness is OVER. Told him tonight I can't fathom how people let basketball take over their lives for a month. He guessed correctly that I am not a huge sports fan. I didn't complain much past that, we just talked about his house hunting expedition and his increased workload. I can be patient. I can. Really. Watch me.
seahorse Posted March 22, 2005 Posted March 22, 2005 Good Luck curvygirl. I hope things go on well from here on in.
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 24, 2005 Author Posted March 24, 2005 So. I happened to see him yesterday... my company took me and another March b-day dude out to lunch. We're all sitting there chatting, etc, guys are playing pool, when he walks in. Walks past me to this private lunch that has been set up on the other side of the room. But from where I am sitting, I have a straightline view of him so that if he looked up he'd have seen me. So after a few minutes I looked over and happened to catch his eye. He smiled and nodded at me and after lunch came over to say hello. We had a very brief conversation, since I was there with my coworkers, as was he. I sort of thought he would call me last night, but no call. Actually I was pretty sure he wouldn't but I would have liked to be surprised. I have today and tomorrow off, celebrating my birthday (which he knows) and I don't know if I'll hear from him. There are still NCAA games going on. I kind of hate that I am in competition with a basketball tournament. I don't want to play 'desperate please date me' girl. I don't play that girl very well. Guess I can do one of two things. 1) Move on 2) Hang on I haven't allowed myself to really have feelings for him. I can't read his mind, only his actions, which right now say he isn't interested. *shrugs*
alphamale Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Originally posted by CurvyGurl I don't want to play 'desperate please date me' girl. I don't play that girl very well. Guess I can do one of two things. 1) Move on 2) Hang on I haven't allowed myself to really have feelings for him. I can't read his mind, only his actions, which right now say he isn't interested. I would suggest option #1 CURVYGURL. Very few men would put the NCAA tourney above a women they really liked. That would be akin to a woman making shopping more important than a man they really liked. Usually does not happen.
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 24, 2005 Author Posted March 24, 2005 Agreed. I don't like truth. You couldn't lie, just a little???
Mz. Pixie Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Especially since it's your birthday. Also, my guy is WAY into basketball but he's made plenty of time for me during the touney's. Sorry, CG- but you do deserve better!
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 24, 2005 Author Posted March 24, 2005 Well, he is not my guy by any stretch of the imagination. We went out once, about a week ago, and we have talked for a month since we met at Match.com. I just thought he would ask me out again and he has not. Yet. I do know that his sales territory and quota have doubled, he is trying to find and buy a house before the rates increase anymore, and they paid for a satellite package to watch these games. I'm not all depressed and man hating, mind you. Meh.
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 24, 2005 Author Posted March 24, 2005 So. He just called for no apparent reason. To 'chat', I guess. He asked if my b day was today. I said it was tomorrow. Then said he would catch up with me later. [tilt]
WithOrWithoutYou Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 LOL, that is kinda bad. On the one hand, he did remember your birthday, but on the other hand, I would hope he would have something more to say about it than "catch ya later". Heh. Who knows, maybe he is planning to send you a dozen red roses and call you up tomorrow to make some wild and crazy spontaneous birthday plans... Then again, maybe he's gonna stay home and watch bball on DTV - most likely. Some men do represent our half of the species rather poorly, I'll admit.
Author CurvyGurl Posted March 25, 2005 Author Posted March 25, 2005 Originally posted by WithOrWithoutYou Who knows, maybe he is planning to send you a dozen red roses and call you up tomorrow to make some wild and crazy spontaneous birthday plans... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAH! OH! OH! STOP! SO FUNNY! Wooooooo that was a good laugh! Woo! Then again, maybe he's gonna stay home and watch bball on DTV - most likely. BINGO! I would like to go back to when I didn't care if he called or not. I was fine till my friend wanted to know what was up and then started her 'men are immature' spiel and 'isn't it weird how he's 12 yrs older but he can't communicate' diatribe. I was fine just letting things go. And now I will be fine again. GUH! Thanks for listening, all!
seahorse Posted March 26, 2005 Posted March 26, 2005 Men huh! Ok, when and if he rings you again, and when and if he asks you for a date you are BUSY ok?? Make him realise that you are NOT sitting at home waiting for his calls. Be unavailable when he rings...and when you do answer always hang up first.
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