BUTTERFLY890 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 So i feel like as humans we are always concentrated on the future. When in my opinion in all honestly time does not exsist. Rather everything is going on at the same time, But I'm not here to talk about that You see I'm with my boyfriend and I am happy honestly I am .The thing is i know deep inside he is not the "one" for me. AKA me and him will not get married. So is it wrong to date someone if i know we will not get married and we will eventually break up?
Frank2thepoint Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 So is it wrong to date someone if i know we will not get married and we will eventually break up? Yes it is wrong. You are misleading the person, because they are investing energy and emotions in hopes the relationship will move toward marriage. If you really do feel and know you will not marry your boyfriend, then let him go now. There's no point in keeping the illusion going. 2
Redhead14 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 So i feel like as humans we are always concentrated on the future. When in my opinion in all honestly time does not exsist. Rather everything is going on at the same time, But I'm not here to talk about that You see I'm with my boyfriend and I am happy honestly I am .The thing is i know deep inside he is not the "one" for me. AKA me and him will not get married. So is it wrong to date someone if i know we will not get married and we will eventually break up? It is wrong if you know that they want to marry you or stay with you. You owe it to him and yourself to be honest. And, if you want the "one", why would you not continue seeking the "one". That doesn't make any sense. If you are staying with someone you don't want to be committed to you aren't happy, you're just comfortable and maybe too lazy to do what you need to do. 3
mariekatie Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 So i feel like as humans we are always concentrated on the future. When in my opinion in all honestly time does not exsist. Rather everything is going on at the same time, But I'm not here to talk about that You see I'm with my boyfriend and I am happy honestly I am .The thing is i know deep inside he is not the "one" for me. AKA me and him will not get married. So is it wrong to date someone if i know we will not get married and we will eventually break up? Well what makes you think that he isn't the one? It's selfish to hold on to him because you're happy now. Let him find his own happiness if you can't give it to him.I guess you have major commitment issues. Not saying it's wrong but it's wrong for him.Unless he is not looking for commitment too.
rapideye Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I think it depends on a lot of things. ..such as your age, your situations in life, and what you each want out of this dating situation. So I would start by talking honestly about what each of you wants - but before saying anything else, I'd make it clear that you are indeed happy with them and don't want to change anything, but just want to make sure you're both on the same page regarding expectations.
todreaminblue Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 what we have on earth is time, time to die, time to be born, blessed by night, blessed by dawn, its all time that we have to share, to be with ones who are honest and care, you dont know when your time is gone, so dont string hearts along for long, we have one heartbeat, one heart and if we are lucky maybe one love, before its our time is due to return above, dont take time as a given, you just dont know how long you'll be livin, the time is now its carpe diem its seize the day, dont trifle with yours or others time let them go their own way...best wishes..deb
GoBlue Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 With your concept of time being as it is - how do you know he isn't the "one?" I mean, if you are with him now, and everything is happening at the same time (no time), than by that reasoning he is the one. Since time is linear, however, and you are currently with him and know in your own heart that you do not plan on marrying him, being honest and up front is the right thing to do. What is your purpose in dating? For me it is to determine if the person I am spending time with is a viable candidate for marriage. If he shares that view, then you owe it to him to be forthright with your heart. Even if he doesn't share that view honesty is the basis of communication and communication is the basis of any and all relationships. 1
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