Maestro13 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Hello! I'm a guy, 19 years old. When I was 15 I started a relationship with this amazing girl. She loved me like nothing else, and so did I. We were together for 2,5 years. I just turned 18 when I broke up with her. It just felt like I didn't love her anymore. I also was in a very complicated situation at school and just everything was going downhill in my life. This was the worst decision I ever made in my life. We didn't talk for months. But soon I realised how special she was to me and that I needed her back. Still I didn't talk to her, hoping this feeling would go away. But it didn't. So the first time I saw her again (like 4months after we broke up) I had such strong feelings again and I couldn't control them anymore so I asked her out. It turned out she had already moved on with some other guy. I was desperate, tried everything to get her back. I did all the things that Get-Your-Ex-Back-Guides forbid you to do. BUT eventually, she did break up with him and sort of got back together with me. This was a bad timing though, I was away for 2 weeks and I still had to get over everything that happend. I felt so bad about the thought that she'd slept with this dude, and everything. It took me a long time to get over this and I needed some space. Then, when I got back home after 2 weeks I got my bad School grades, I had to redo 8 of my 12 exams. SHORT: Once she broke up with the dude and wanted to be with me again, I didn't give her much attention. I know that I disappointed her. Really, just writing this makes me feel like a complete *******. In the end, I got all my thoughts and doubts figured out, and I decided to go for her again full 100%. I started texting her again but she replied very short and I didn't understand why. Few days later, I saw on Facebook that she had a relationship with someone else. This was like 3 months after she broke up with the first dude and got back with me. I know this is a rebound relationship, she's the kind of girl that has quite a lot of problems and almost no1 to talk to about them. She really needs someone. But I want to be THAT guy. I know I can be. But because I ****ed up so badly, the first time I got her back, she basically doesn't want to give me another chance. Also this dude seems very decent and I am so scared that this will be a good relationship. She is not the difficult type. As long as she gets love and affection she doesn't see the bad things. I'm so scared that they will stay together for a long time or... forever. She told me on chat that she is happy in this new relationship and that the guy does everything to make her happy. A whole new world has opened. And she doesn't want to hurt this guy so she told me she wouldn't talk to me anymore. Also she basically told me to leave her alone. But in a more polite way, not that she is mad. They are together for about 2 months now. But I have such a bad feeling about this. She seems much more serious in this realtionship than in the first one she had after we broke up. Is there anyone that can tell me what I should do? One thing is for sure: I want her back. I don't need time anymore to think about things, I've been there and done that. I love HER. And basically no1 else. She's the one that I want to be with for the rest of my life, and I know that i can make her happy. She just doesn't believe it anymore...
Mi7522 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 You're young there will be plenty of "they're the ones". Learn from your mistakes and move on
Author Maestro13 Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 You're young there will be plenty of "they're the ones". Learn from your mistakes and move on Thanks for answering, but this isn't what I'm looking for. I might be young but we've been through a lot and we were together for more than 2,5year. I know I love her a lot and want her back in my life, make this girl happy again like I used to do.
JohnMcClaine Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Thanks for answering, but this isn't what I'm looking for. Most of the advice given on here is not what people are looking for. It's what people need to hear. I might be young but we've been through a lot and we were together for more than 2,5year. I know I love her a lot and want her back in my life, make this girl happy again like I used to do. Based on your story, it doesn't appear that this is going to happen anytime soon. As the previous poster pointed out, you're young. Best to move on. Years from now you will look back and wonder why you were so worried about this. 1
Author Maestro13 Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 Most of the advice given on here is not what people are looking for. It's what people need to hear. Based on your story, it doesn't appear that this is going to happen anytime soon. As the previous poster pointed out, you're young. Best to move on. Years from now you will look back and wonder why you were so worried about this. "Based on your story, it doesn't appear that this is going to happen anytime soon." Could you tell me why? I know I won't hear much positive advice on this one. I know I'm in a bad situation here. Some good advice is what I need. But I know for sure that 'forget her and move on' is the worst advice if you truly love a girl...
JohnMcClaine Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Could you tell me why? Because you said yourself that she told you she is happy in her new relationship. I know I won't hear much positive advice on this one. I know I'm in a bad situation here. Some good advice is what I need. But I know for sure that 'forget her and move on' is the worst advice if you truly love a girl... You're being given good advice. It's just not the advice you want to hear. At this point, moving on is the best advice that you will get. Stay busy, work on improving yourself. Maybe her new relationship won't work out, but then again, maybe it will. There is nothing you can do to change that right now and the sooner you realize that, the better off you will be.
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