Charminglibra Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Hey everybody so I took this girl out last Saturday night we went to dinner ice cream a bookstore and a drive in movie. I met her on an online dating website She was beautiful she is perfect in every aspect everything that I was looking for we got along great we share a lot of common interests the vibe seemed like she was enjoying her so she also said that she enjoyed the day we flirted we made physical contact during the movie I grab your hand and I played with her hand rub your arm seem to enjoy it I wanted to kiss her but I didn't I tried to be a gentleman and be respectful. It was a first date so I didn't want to ruin anything but being too eager to kiss her so when I took her home I gave her a hug goodbye and I told her to give me a call The next day I sent her a text message with a picture of a fortune cookie that I had gotten the day before. The fortune cookie read "today will be lucky and memorable for you" in the text message I said when I got this fortune cookie I didn't think anything of it but after the date last night with you it makes sense to me now I hope you have a great day. I didn't get a response from her so I didn't know really what to think the next day I sent her another text message and I told her that I just couldn't stop thinking about her it's been three days now and I haven't heard from her what you guys think do you think that maybe I was too eager maybe I was too needy maybe I was fishing for attention the date went very well and everything was great so I guess I just don't understand why I haven't heard from her
clia Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Hey everybody so I took this girl out last Saturday night we went to dinner ice cream a bookstore and a drive in movie. I met her on an online dating website Dinner, ice cream, bookstore, and a movie is way too much for a first date with a girl you are meeting for the very first time. Unfortunately, she's just not interested. It's impossible to know exactly why. Sorry.
d0nnivain Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 While the date may have been generous & unduly long for an OLD meet since you both seemed to enjoy it, no harm no foul. It's only Wednesday. Try to relax Unfortunately, the fact that she hasn't responded in any way to 2 text messages is an indication that she's not interested. Your messages were a bit over the top & too serious this soon. The fortune cookie thing was clever but following it up by telling her that you can't stop thinking about her, may have been off putting. She knows how to get in touch with you but if she does not you have to respect that as her declining to date you.
losangelena Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 It sounds like maybe the date was not as good for her as it was for you. I've had dates like that, that were nice but the guy was WAY more into it than I was. It happens. It sucks, but it happens. Maybe your post-date texts came on a bit strong. If a guy I'd gone out with once told me that he couldn't stop thinking about me, it'd give me pause. Especially if I hadn't responded to the first text. Besides, you went out one time with her. It's still too early for you to tell if she's truly "everything you're looking for." You barely know her. 1
Dallers Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Nothing wrong the date there are no rules on a date and if she hung around for all that I can only say the hug was a big failure on your part. Always go for the kiss. Even if you get rejected you are making your intentions clear. With a date fun filled and a hug you are friend zoning yourself. At the end of the day you do not care. Listen to me. You do not care, she is not the prize you are and she misses out if she does not pursue you. Do not chase, walk away. 1
xbbnx Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Dallers pretty much hit the nail one the head
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I think the date sounded fine...great in fact. Don't listen to what anyone says. If it felt right and comfortable and you both got on well, there is no shame in prolonging a date. I've had those dates before and they can be wonderful. I also don't think your texts were that out of line. Yes, perhaps a case of "here is my heart on my sleeve" but most girls enjoy that. I can't imagine that it would send someone running for the hills...but then again...I'm not exactly dialed into the mindset of twentysomething girls these days I think what's happened here is that she probably is dating or at the very least chatting it up with other guys and probably found someone else she liked better or connected with more. Unfortunately, you got placed at the bottom of the pile. She may reconnect again with you but the odds aren't looking that good at the moment. If someone is interested in you, they will move mountains to let you know it and it's clear you've done that but she hasn't. Chalk this up as a good date and time to move on. That's the sh*tty part of OLD. The competition is fierce no matter what side you're on. Good luck. 2
Frank2thepoint Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I told her to give me a call The next day I sent her a text message with a picture of a fortune cookie that I had gotten the day before. The fortune cookie read "today will be lucky and memorable for you" in the text message I said when I got this fortune cookie I didn't think anything of it but after the date last night with you it makes sense to me now I hope you have a great day. I didn't get a response from her so I didn't know really what to think the next day I sent her another text message and I told her that I just couldn't stop thinking about her it's been three days now and I haven't heard from her what you guys think do you think that maybe I was too eager maybe I was too needy maybe I was fishing for attention You were very eager/pushy after the date. There is no need to tell a woman to call you. You call/text her the next day that you had a great time with her and want to see her again. That's it. It's like tennis. You serve, and then it is her turn to return that serve, if she wants to. If she doesn't respond within 24 hours of the message, she is simply not interested. This is a simple formula, one that you need to learn and practice when dealing with the dating world.
Assasda Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Yeah, I think you were a little needy on the texts. Thats about it though. Even if you were a little needy for validation, she should have still contacted you. You already texted her 3 times, I dont think you should contact her anymore at at all. See other women
J21 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Your message was a bit over the top with someone you met only once. If she was interested she would've replied back. I think you need to step away and let things be.
Donnie Darko Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Try sending her another text that says I know where you live and I've been watching you. Your post date texts were over the top needy clingy. I can certainly see how you convinced yourself that they were romantic, thoughtful and sweet but those texts can come across completely different to someone else...someone you haven't even kissed yet. Also, with OLD she is probably multi-dating so even though you thought your date was nice and went well she could have had a date with someone else that went better...you know with someone that just couldn't resist kissing her at the end of their date.
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