Is it too late to win him back now that he's seeing someone else?? a rebound?

[mk1981]

Help! is it too late to win him back now that he's seeing someone?? a rebound?

I came out of a 2 year relationship six months ago. I’m 33 and my bf is 24. Gay couple. My bf had trust and insecurity ssues. At first the relationship was amazing. We never fought and loved each other. After the first year, he started to get jealous of I chatted to other guys, always wondering where I was and constantly bickering about why I hadn’t text him etc. Basically petty things. Overall, I sensed I wasn’t reassuring him enough. We broke up and I am devasted. I tried to get him back but he always had his defenses up. Eventually we started talking again and sleeping together again. I think I pushed too soon to get back together as he bolted again. This crushed me. After begging and pleading he eventually blocked me on social media and told me he’s over me and to move on. I tried. Weeks past and just when I felt better he surfaced again. He was constantly blocking me on fb and Whatsapp and then unblocking me over and over again. What does this mean? I havnt seen him for three months now. He blocked me from making calls to him in Oct. I tried calling this week and he picked up. ? We started the convo with pleasentries and spoke for an hour and a half. Anyway he started rehashing all the bad elements of the past blaming me for the break up and told me he’s recently dating a new guy his own age. I sensed that he wasn’t that excited about it. Who knows. He told me to move on again and that he's going to have to tell his new bf that he was talking to me and we shouldn't speak again. We hung up and felt compelled to see him in person. Anyway, I tried to ring back to ask him but he blocked my call again! I’m talking five mins after we spoke for two hours. I went to his work the next day to try see him on his break and when he came out he walked straight past me!!!! This broke my heart. I got home and wrote him a final goodbye email outlining my love for him, my mistakes, his mistakes, improvements in my life and that I wished him all the best with his new relationship and future. No response. What do you think? Any hope for us? What should I do? Is it a rebound? Broke up six months ago but never really got away from each other properly. Is it too late? He seems so hurt and angry. Hot and cold all the time. Thanks

[Strength in Healing]

You gotta take a deep breath. Sounds like you're having severe anxiety.

 

Personally, I would go completely NC. You need to heal. Maybe you actually going 100% no contact will make him miss you. But you have to do it to heal, either way.

 

This wasn't healthy, and based on his behaviors, he is immature. You have to focus on you now. I recommend going to the gym. It's better than sitting in your own head stirring over every little mistakes that probably made little difference overall.

 

 

The ball is in his court, you need to understand that. There is nothing more you could do except push him away by continuing to try.