fred123 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 why would you talk to a guy for 2 months online and fly to his country to see him if you were only just friends? and are you really fri3nds when you only known each other 2 months?
mammasita Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I wouldn't, that's insane. If she paid her own way maybe she just wanted to take a trip. If you paid then you were clearly used for a free vacation.
Redhead14 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 why would you talk to a guy for 2 months online and fly to his country to see him if you were only just friends? and are you really fri3nds when you only known each other 2 months? Well, that is not something I would do after only "knowing" someone online for 2 months. 1) She may have been hoping for more but when she met you, it didn't click for her. 2) She is desperate for attention no matter the cost. Either way, you are not friends. I don't care how much time you've been corresponding with someone online. You are not even friends until you've spent time with someone. You are basically acquaintances. Nothing more. Move on.
d0nnivain Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 She probably thought there could be something there but upon meeting realized that she didn't want a relationship. That's why we tell you all the time that an OL relationship isn't real until you meet. People say versions of "let's be friends" all the time as a way of not hurting somebody's feelings when they reject the person romantically. I hope you didn't pay for the trip.
Toodaloo Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 For me it would be an adventure and depending on how long and intense the discussion on line was I would want to see this person I was talking to. If I had been talking as friends I would expect it to remain that way and I would not be expecting anything more regardless of gender etc. I would see it as a chance to spend time with a friend thats all. Nothing more nothing less. Just the same way that I fly out to see my college mates and other friends... I would not go if I did not pay for the trip myself...
CarrieT Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Because until you physically meet someone, you ARE just friends. And when you do physically meet someone, you still need time to see if the rest of the chemistry is there to determine if there is anything further. Which there may not be.
Donnie Darko Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Sometimes there is attraction from online, emails, texting, phone calls, etc. that just isn't there is real life. I typically find this to be when someone is not congruent in real life with the personality they pretended to have online or through email, texting, phone calls, etc. In other words she just didn't feel the chemistry or attraction for you when meeting you IRL. 1
Author fred123 Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 but why did she say that we were only ever friends and that i got it wrong.
CarrieT Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 but why did she say that we were only ever friends and that i got it wrong. Because she changed her mind when the in-person meet occurred. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 but why did she say that we were only ever friends and that i got it wrong. Because "friends" was the only word she had. You were actually more like acquaintances, not even friends. You can't be romantic BF/GF until you actually meet & decide to have a romance. It never got that far for you two.
d0nnivain Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 This isn't the same girl from August / September who came to London with her friends & then went out with that other guy is it?
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